Dazed,

Your WW is trying to get you to pay for a Hotel so that she can continue in her comfort zone. She NEEDS to be with Jabba if she continues contact so that SHE has to live in reality with the slime ball she has chosen to replace you with for SF. Only your WW can destroy Jabba and the fantasy she has chosen over you, your DD and marriage.

EXPOSE to everyone again let her refound and new friend know the reality of her choices.

PROTECT YOUR DD and YOURSELF from the actions and threats of your WW and JABBA. Get an order in place before anything else. You and your DD are in DANGER. Even if your WW now chooses no contact Jabba has been played around with too many times. Like a Rabid dog he will bite, it is only a question of who and when.

Been gone for a few days, trying to catch up.

Whats going on now? Did she leave?

Dazed-

You out there? We're praying for you man!

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Seconded!

This is the most frustrating part for me...you get emotionally involved in these situations...care for those involved, but truly have no right or expectations about knowing whats going on.

Dazed could choose never to post again.

It drives me crazy to wonder what might be going on and whether or not our help was worthwhile.

It really makes me not want to post or get involved.

It's only been 4 days since he last posted!! And there are enough people that have his email address to have us get info.

Consider it one of those mini-series that are "to be continued, next week".

But let's not stop praying for his family.....he'll post soon, I'm sure!!!

Thinking of you Dazed!!

MWIL

Very well said MYIL!

Lexxxy~ Your awesome!

I have been in "save my [censored] mode" here at work all week and the previous week end for that matter.

I told the WW that we would discuss her choice later in the week. Until then She IS going to take some responsiblity around the house while I'm busting my [censored] at work.

I told her what I thought Sunday still stands. I told her she will get up early in the morning and take daughter to school this week so I can be in the office to prepare. I gave her no choice. Just expected her to do it. Of course I called in to make sure daughter was up and moving. She has done it and not complained other than being tired.

I told her she was going to stay home with daughter while I was at the office late preparing for this weeks audits. Yes, I said AUDIT... Any one an ENGINEER out here? Yes, well then you know what an ISO 9001 audit means. That what I'm doing this week.

My manager basically told me if I ****** this up it's the death nail. How would you take that comment from your supervisor?

So, no time to post of even worry about the little spoiled WW.
Last night we talked a little about things. I let her know again where I stand.

I told her I pretty much release her to go to him because I can't love her the way I want to or the way she should be. Either she go to him now or we start a no contact letter and I will support her and be with her every step of the way threw with drawl. Then we might be able to build the marriage we have always wanted.

Things that have happened the last two Thursday’s and then last week end are so devastating to me. It hurts me to see you like this. I am sad for you. I know your not happy with this arrangement either. It just crushes me and has to devastate DD to see this stuff happening and what is not happening kills us too. We don’t do anything together or as a family. We can’t even eat a meal in public. I love you and want to enjoy life and find happiness. This is not it.

She seemed a bit stunned. She asked if I was moving on. She asked why things were getting better for me. I told her that I’m embracing my choice to find happiness. I’m not waiting for it to happen. I think the fun is the trip trying to find it and then enjoyment once you do. I married you WW, not him and you married me not him. I feel a marriage to me is about two people not three. It’s your choice.

She was quiet and reserved the rest of the night. She fell asleep on the couch again, so I just let her sleep. About 4am she came up stairs and climbed into bed with me. She actually wanted to be next to me, surprise. I was nice and rubbed her hair for a few minutes.

She has called several times being really nice. Calling just to be calling it seems like. She even sent me a note the other day saying have a good day. WOW..

I have to get several flaming hot projects off my desk so I can focus on the plan.

Thanks for the concern... Some of my closer friends on here can email me if you would like.

Also want to say a big thanks to the wonderings. They have really help reassure what i'm doing and thinking.
Also to "losthusband" Bill thanks for your help man!!!

gotta run.. be back when i can

OMG! ISO 9001 AUDIT???!!!! <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/eek.gif" alt="" /> <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/eek.gif" alt="" /> <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/eek.gif" alt="" />

Man, I really feel for you!

Hang in there Dazed!

Good Luck with the audit!

Dazed...

I emailed you this a.m. at both home and work...used my gmail acct...I know you can't receive yahoo at work, I wasn't sure about gmail...We're still here should you need us...you remain in our prayers...

Mrs. W

Dazed, your manager is probably BEYOND the point of wanting to fire your A$$. Please, please don't take this lightly. I think you are on as thin of ice as humanely possible with regards to your job. I would expend everything you humanely can do to restore your work repuatation (and then also look for another job). It is my experience, that once you get to the point of a supervisor verbalizing that they want to $hit can you, it is rarely repairable. This didn't get like this at work overnight and you have probably gotten the "benefit" of the doubt much more than you realize.

I wish you luck here. I hate to sound like the negative "old troll", but you did ask for comments on how others would take this comment from their boss. If a boss ever said that to me, I would get in high gear AND start looking for a new job. That is just me though. I am an oddball here, so perhaps it is "just me".


Lem

Had a quick moment and wanted to drop by.
I kick @ss with the audits. Auditor said, this was the first engineering office he went into that had all the proper docs and information.
My direct manager was very elated to here the good news. He was also happy to see our back load reductions and on time status with most projects.

The WW sent me this email Friday afternoon.

hi-
i been thinking--
r u still thinking we would have
enough $$ to get another vehicle &
get a new (different house) --i think i am ready
to move in the right direction now.
i am ready to move on & get happy.
reply if u have time. thanks


Thank you for the note.
I would like to get another vehicle and home for us.
I’m very anxious to move on & get happy too.
I would love nothing more than to be happy with you together.
I will help you with no contact and together we can get threw with drawl. The first steps to give us a chance to find the happiness in marriage we always wanted.
It would be just me and you hand in hand, side by side, together making our life the way we wanted it together.
I understand how hard this has all been on you. It has been hard for me too.
I see our first move being no contact letter and a plan to make it work.

She did not reply or talk about it when we got home. She spent time with her GF and sister last night. Her sister told me that WW called her and said she needed her to come over and be a friend.

WW and daughter are garage sale shopping at the moment. I gotta go for now.

((Dazed))

Great news. So glad work is on track and your audit went well. That is really something to be proud of considering how much stress you are under.

She's been bouncing back and forth for a while now. This time you must enforce the restraining order or protection order.

Consider some very extreme measures to separate them. Cut off all access he has to her. And remove her from temptation. Is it still possible for her to go visit relatives out of town?

Been following thread. Just had impluse to add comment. From how you responded to her above........hand in hand, etc.........sounds........how do I say it........you sound too anxious and weak. It may not be in your nature but I think if you were firmer with her and the situation, things would be further along.

And for heavens sakes, dont go purchasing a larger house or new car to soon. You could do it and find yourself in same situation not far down road only bigger financial obligations.

((dazed))

update please?

pretty please?

With sugar and spice??

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Trix -- is that a fact or speculation?

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