Ok its ok I guess. We talk about the days issues and what I need to do to not make matters worse and him too. If anyone remembers me from the superbowl drama....therapist told him to "choose wisely" which was fabulous. He did end up staying home.

Ummm...I dont know. Shouldnt we be exploring the root of the affair? Maybe not. His super permissive mother perhaps? I dont know he seems to only focus on the moment...which I guess is what I should focus on but I am stuck in A time which is 4 years ago.

H and I have been getting along fairly well lately so I hate to stir things up but am feeling a little "whats the point of this?" maybe its the therapist. I think hes smart. He generalizes a lot like he forgets our story and he blabbers about his own life a lot too.

What should I expect from this anyway? I will do anything I have to heal this M and so will my H but if I am going to make dentist/doctor/accountant excuses every week for the babysitter I want it to be getting us somewhere. Any thoughts? Thanks!
HF

Hi Hope,

I covered some differences between my MC and yours in that other thread. Check out the post on the main index of what to look for in a marriage counselor by Steve Harley.

I'm trying to bump this up and hope you get some responses, as I would like input on this also.

My MC spent alot of time asking us about our history of our M and how we met, and what our R was like before we got Med, and what it was like before we had kids. Spent a little bit of time on the A, but my H kept saying over and over that it was just for sex, and he was never leaving us. I think my MC glossed over this and wanted me to just move forward...

Does anyone have any more input on this topic?