Been in Plan A a while now. Not sure how long i've been doing a GOOD plan A...but have tried my best. Some of you may know my story...or not...been posting in Plan A since September.

Just needing expert advice at this point! My H and i have been seperated since Aug. 24...if you call it seperated. he is living right next door. He comes to our home every evening...he just doesn't sleep there. He is still in denial about the A...even though i have exposed to OWH and she confessed on the phone to him...i heard and so did my best friend. His family, my family...pretty much everyone knows...but no one says anything. he is living with his mom...who doesn't want to BELIEVE it to be true...even though she does...she says nothing to him.

OWH and i spoke a couple weeks after i exposed...because my H had been caught yet again with OW...her H refused to believe me and said things were fine between them and kindly asked me not to contact him again.

here's my sitch...I AM GOING MENTAL NOW. no seriously...i have done so well...hanging on, taking his bull...don't get me wrong...i'm not a pushover...but this has gone on too, too long. He tells me "he doesn't know what he wants...doesn't know if he wants to work on our M or not" but remember guys...its not because of OW...because i get the "what OW" "who" "i don't know what your talking about" (yes I realize it is...but he wants me to think it's not)

Background...OW is not going to leave her H. He is loaded...my H is nearly bankrupt. So this is IMO a fling for her???? i dunno? for my H...He won't let go of me....won't even admit her to me....so i don't know what it is for him...

anyway..sorry so long...guys, anyone...what can i do? I don't want to leave...its my home too...and if i leave..I have to move in w/my family...i want to give my son something stable...and i feel like everything is taken from him...i don't want to take his home...

Plan B would be great seeing as how my H can't go a day without me...but HE IS NEXT DOOR. i have tried at times to tell him...don't come down...don't call...but he does it anyway...and uses our son...saying...well...Jay wanted to see me...

thought about getting a PI and pictures to RE expose to OWH...i didn't have much proof when i exposed before...didn't need it she confessed..but the A is still very ongoing...and OWH is totally not seeing it...don't know if it would work if i did re-expose but i think it might.

any suggestions...on how i can get out of this nightmare...?? thanks guys! JM

JM, I think your best strategy is to bust up the affair. Your best chance of doing that is to hire the PI and present OWH with the pictures. He won't be able to deny pictures. Hiring a PI is much cheaper than a divorce. Expose again to his mother and others if you think it will help. But definitely expose to the OWH and perhaps her parents.

After you launch this nuke, see if it breaks up the affair. If not, THEN you could go into Plan B.

I do think that the OWH is the key. And you may even want to consider exposing to her PARENTS. This is the time to pull out the big guns and kill this affair.