Here's the scoop:

Well she was ticked off yesterday and very mean to Wookie on the phone...to top it off, mija was sad/crying over the phone and we couldn't get her to tell us what was wrong. Turns out we found out today that she had recieved the papers yesterday. She tried to tell the lawyer that he had her served at her mom's so she'd be unprepared. WHATEVER! How long have YOU guys known she'd be served...when it was sent was the lawyer, not us. The lawyer diffused that by telling her it was sent to her mom's as well as her old address b/c we knew she was moving and wanted to be sure she recieved it somewhere. She then tried to deflect and say Wookie has known for a month where she was moving...NO! We didn't find out till last week the actual address, till then we only knew what area.

Lying tart. (sorry to YOU ALL for the DJ)

Wookie is now officially OC2 daddy. Since she was married, but he (OC2) was not the husband's she had to say that he wasn't the dad. Then the courts asked Wookie if he contested being the father. Some of you may think this is wrong not to do the DNA testing but Wookie and I decided that we DON'T want to know. I know, I know....she has not been very truthful about her faithfulness to Wookie during that time...but we don't care. We've loved and raised this child as a part of our family and a part of our family he will stay. Period.

What else. Oh. She apparently called CPS when she got the papers to "tell." She told the lawyer that CPS wants a psyche eval on Wookie (we'd asked for one on her). No problem-o says the lawyer. Works out fine for us...Wookie takes one everytime he goes to a new department. But hopefully, CPS will see why she is doing it in relation to being served. It does kinda smack of vindictive.

Wanna hear something funny? The papers say she is not allowed to have any alcohol while having the children, and up to 24 hours of getting them.

Wookie says her jaw dropped out of her skull when the lawyer spoke up in behalf of him. She was also giving go-to-h-e-double-hockey-sticks looks that were worse than my sister's (who is queen of those).

The lawyer said, "You would agree that he (Wookie) has the kids at least 50% of the time, right?" She said, "I let him have them whenever he wants." The lawyer then asked why they shouldn't be living with us then and she said, "Because they are my kids and I want them with me."

Yeah. When it suits her...but we have the times and dates they visit documented plus we document any times she asks us to get them (like last week when she said the kids would be better off with us). BTW: The lawyer said that we didn't legally have to give them back after that........DANG! If we'd known that we wouldn't have.

It's beginning. One step in our road is taken (having paternity for OC2 established).

- Kimmy

kimmy---this is great----one step closer.....praying for you and wookie. those kids deserve YOU!

So what is the next step?

Next court date is March 16.

Wow, you Texans don't fool around do you?

Hey Del:

Thanks for update!

I will admit I'm surprised that you'd Not want the dna ........but if you 2 can live with it .....so be it.

Next WOW Moment:
You've already got another court date set ........IN THE SAME Month???? <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/eek.gif" alt="" />

NOW That's Shocking!!! <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/shocked.gif" alt="" />
Hee, he, hee <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/wink.gif" alt="" />

Wishing you only success in your Quest! <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/grin.gif" alt="" />

have i told you lately how awesome you are???

i look forward to the day you report that the kids are with you to stay!!!

I posted this on Idiotville yesterday...but here is the latest and greatest so far (all of this happened Tuesday night):

I'm sad...I'm upset...and for once I don't know what to do.

We're recording her phone calls now to catch her lies.

Last night Wookie called to see if he could pick the kids up for the rest of the week. After hmming and hawing and throwing out all these stupid acusations, and trying to throw her weight around regarding the kids being in her custody right now, so she really doesn't have to give them to him since visitation/formal custody has not been established yet, she says we can have them till Friday. During all this Wookie could tell that the kids were outside, but she wasn't and warned her about leaving them out without supervision (she thinks her 10year old is supervisor enough apparently).

Anyway, since the olders we bathing (it was 6:30), I decided to stay at home so we wouldn't have to rush bathtime and supper (which was leftovers, but still). Wookie got home about 45 minutes later and I could tell by the look in his eyes something was very wrong.

Let me digress a bit and explain VD's living situation. She's always resided in the poorer sections of town. This place she has moved to is by far the worst...her house actually backs up to a neighborhood park and has a fully enclosed (by chain link) backyard. When I was little, the bad area of town was termed "across the tracks." The tracks aren't even visible, she's so far across them now (except the ones on the neighbors arms). When we dropped them off last weekend, I actually felt acutely uncomfortable there...that has never happened. Like, I was prey.

VD called as they were walking in to tell me that she didn't get to speak to Wookie, but she meant to tell him the kids hadn't had dinner ye t. I thanked her for calling and told her it was okay, I can make them something, told her Wookie was walking in the door and asked if she wanted to talk to him...she told me it was fine and buh-bye.

The first thing out of Leondra's mouth was,"Alfredo (bf) hit me and yelled that he hates me." This was the first thing she said after she kissed me hello. She then showed me her inner arm with a teeny tiny scratch on it and told me Alfredo did this to me.

As I turned to Wookie, I could tell that was just the icing. Not only was that the first thing that Leondra had told him, BUT when he went to pick up the kids they were in the FRONT yard unattended except for the 5 year old and 10 year old. OMG! In that neighborhood. A 3 year old and an almost 2 year old....A 3 YEAR OLD AND AN ALMOST 2 YEAR OLD!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

After I'd finished panicing ( sp?) - in my room - not where the babies could see - I sat down with Leondra and asked her if she had told mommy (VD) what Alfredo did. No. Asked if she'd told granma Yaya (VD's mom) what he did. No. Why didn't she tell granma or mommy? Because she wanted to tell me and daddy...and then she hugged me really tight.

Wookie called CPS (again) and told them the whole story. Then he called SAPD, who actually showed up to make the information report. Of course, my Leondra is not shy a bit and told the officer everything...but you know 3 year olds...the story kept getting bigger, and bigger, and bigger. (sigh)

Wookie is calling to see if we can get emergency custody of the children. We'd promised VD to bring them back Friday...but with her continously bad decisions, it's becoming clear that more drastic measures need to take place to ensure that these kids are safe!

I'm so tired and verging on a migraine. My bloodpressure is through the roof.

Top Rope - I knew some would be shocked that we didn't want to go ahead with the DNA testing on 'Nonio...but we've bonded with this child. Imagine the hurt if he wasn't blood related...we'd have no way to make sure he grew into the person God wants him to be. We'd be forced to not be part of his life....we just can't do that to him (or to us...pretty selfish, eh?)

Thank you for your support everyone. Thank you so, so much.

- Kimmy

kimmy---in case no one has told you this in the last five minutes...you are truely one of gods angels. i am proud to consider you a friend......

I guess Wookie could be a poster boy for reasons NOT to have an A, huh?

My FOW friends call her a "bunny boiler"......

Nik - I don't think I'm that good....I really don't...specially cause of all the anger I feel towards that person sometimes.

But thank you (and everyone) for saying so.

WEEEELLLLLL....

VD certainly was busy yesterday. She called while I was at work and attempted to get Wookie to say a lot of stuff on the phone....sounds like on the tape that she was trying to use the record feature on her cell. Her clumsy attempts were laughable to say the least.

First she tried to get him to say he told her he loved her. He said, "No, I said I'll always feel love for you that you brought these kids into the world. If you take that to mean I love you love you you're wrong...but that's on you."

Then she tried to tell him that she's been in our old house and can describe it (the one we lived in before we lived at the coast). Both he and SHE have sworn to me up and down she never went there....besides which, why should it even matter now. It certainly doesn't matter to me...we don't even OWN that house anymore....then she went on to say she'd been to our house at the coast....now, really...this chick that doesn't have a drivers license and has no money, only bar hops...she's telling him she went to our house. Said she could describe that one...Wookie was all, "I KNOW! I told you about it so you would know it was safe to let the kids come down there!" And again....what the eff does it matter unless she's trying to dredge up old ****** to play back to me...and if she does....she's gonna be really effing surprised when I tell her IT DOESN'T MATTER! IT'S THE PAST...Do I think he lied to me in the past??? You bet your sweet apples I do. He was lying to BOTH of us. GET OVER IT! It's par for course when you take that chance and sleep with a married man. PERIOD.

He got her on tape agreeing to 50/50 with us as the main household...so we've got that to give to the lawyer....she wanted to know why we wanted to be the main household and she was told because we want the kids to go to Northside ISD. Southside is notoriously bad, and that's where they'd go....

She'll renig (sp?) on the 50/50 in front of people...one of the reasons we are taping.

Lawyer said that since the last hearing determined that both are joint conservators of the kids, we DON'T have to take them back if we feel that they are in jeapordy. Taking a page from my dear Raindrop's book, when Wookie asked me if it would look bad if we took them back I replied, "I think it would look a lot worse if we thought it was bad enough to make a report with the police and call CPS, then let them go back...specially since we know now we are not obligated to." Then I told him, "But that's not up to me...that's up to you." He said, "No, you are their stepmom and this is a decision affecting our household and our family. This is OUR decision." (that man is gonna get so lucky tonight, btw )

That's all I can remember right now. There's a lot I can't remember that she said...she used up 15 min on one side of a tape, the whole other side (hour long tapes) and about another 15 min on a new tape rambling on....

- Kimmy

Hey Kimmy,

So glad to know u are still fighting the good fight.
Keeping u & your family in my prayers always.

"Don't wait for the battle to be over - shout now!!!"

Love u!

so----what happened...do you still have the kids?