Hello

Let me start with an introduction. I am 36 and a BS. I have been divorced now for approximately 3 months (I tried to save my M for 2 years).

Needless to say, I am new to the dating world. Recently, I have been approached by a co-worker. We have talked quite a bit at work and I have developed a huge crush on him. (my first post marriage crush! It feels nice) He is 44 and divorced. He would like to go out with me. However, here is my dilemma… he will be moving out of state in a few months.

Why would a fellow want to start something before moving away? I am not clear on his intentions. He does have family in the area and would be returning on occasion. Some friends of mine are encouraging me to go out with him and have fun, while I, on the other hand, am trying to protect my heart.

Please help me to sort this out. I am not that experienced with the male species. I also, obviously, have been pretty burned before. I know that I will have a difficult time trusting others and myself.

Should I stay away from him (though this thought depresses me) or should I throw caution to the wind and go out with him?

Thank you
H

Hi Hope and Welcome! <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/smile.gif" alt="" />

Part of me wants to tell you, hey get out there, go to dinner, have some fun, keep it LIGHT since he IS leaving, and make a friend....

Problem w/ that is you have a huge crush, you are still so fresh off of your divorce, so dunno if you can realistically keep it light,which makes you just plain RIPE to get hurt....

He probably has none right now since he doesn't know you....Maybe he's looking for a little fun, but who knows? What you have to examine is YOU and where you are and whether you can handle dating right now....

Let us know what you decide!

Hugs
DW

Agree with dw

You have to make kind of a 'deal' with yourself first.
Take him for fun, to refresh/recharge your batteries, or don't take him at all, for you want/need a stable long-term relationship.
Really, could you distinguish and 'agree in advance' to have a short R (for it feels nice to feel again) and use it just for that, without deeper emotional involvement?
Like, I'd try this ride, for fun, but am not taking the car home with me? <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/smile.gif" alt="" />