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Can someone tell me there is a point to the sadness? That I am really doing the right thing to try and save my marriage? I just need to hear someone say that my WH will come around eventually...
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As you know anyway, there is no such thing as a 100% guarantee. But in your case, you have a guarantee that the affair will be smashed - that's more than most people have.
With the affair smashed, you have a pretty good chance your husband will in fact pull his head out of his [censored] and you will be able to save your marriage.
Me: 56 (FBS) Wife: 55 (FWW)
D-Day August 2005
Married 11/1982 3 Sons 27,25,23
Empty Nesters.
Fully Recovered.
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I haven't read your story, but I wanted to answer you anyway.
Whether or not your WH will ultimately come around is really up to him, but YOU will be stronger because of the steps you took to save your marriage. You will end up stronger and a better person for taking these steps, regardless of your WH's actions. You will feel like you did all you could. Yes, you are doing the right thing.
And yes--his actions hurt like heck right now. The sadness can be overwhelming. But as time goes by, you get stronger.
Hang in there and keep posting here on those nights where the sadness is thick. There is a lot of support here.
BW-me, 29
XH, 29
3 sons-now 6,4,2
Divorce final--Sept. 27, 2006.
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Have been wondering the same here about my FWW. Although FWW has not been with OM in 5 months, she still works around him; something I have been tring to change. Anyway I'm still hoping that those "In Love with You" feelings for me come back soon. I have noticed that both myself and FWW have those good days and bad days too. I wish you and your relationship with WS the best; hang in there JJ!
43 yo
wife 40 yo
married 19 yrs
20 yo daughter
16 yo son
d-day 10/11/05
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