Hi everybody,

I have another update. I called a PI today to see about finding the OM's W. She said they don't work for private people, only for lawyers, but she told me exactly where to go to find some of the information I needed. The place was the courthouse on the 7th floor. A lady there helped me with the computer(without a mouse). I had a copy of the OM's divorce decree with his W's name on it (which I did not know until today) in about 20 minutes. On the decree, the State and County where they got their marriage license was noted, so later today I called that county recorders office and asked for a copy of that too. It will be sent Monday or Tuesday of next week. I'm anticipating that I'll discover his W's maiden name on that, and perhaps her parents' names and address too.

I've got quite a few exposure letters written to siblings, other family members, and one to the airline where WW and OM work together. I will simply talk to mutual friends and to my church leaders. Once I get everything ready I'll need to choose a day to send them the way Melody described. Below is a rough draft of the exposure letter to the airline WW and OM work for. I'm hoping I hit the points Melody pointed out in her note.

"The most subtle form of sexual harassment in the workplace is a company like yours, turning it’s head to employees having affairs with workplace ‘lovers.’ Affairs that rip families and children away from their formerly secure and stable lives. I am wondering what ****** Airlines is doing about this despicable situation that is rampant in the airline industry. I’m nearly certain that you have heard the saying: “He got AIDS”…Aviation Induced Divorce Syndrome. I have to tell you, when my wife applied for a job with ******, I felt the ominous portent of something just like this happening to her, but I trusted her, and I trusted ******, that she would be safe there. I feel let down by her and by ****** Airlines. She told me that she didn’t mean for this to happen, it just did. I know that my wife and her affair partner bear the brunt of the blame for this, but when supervisors hear or learn of workplace affairs, does your company do anything to preclude them from happening, or to counsel the participants in the devastation this might cause…not only for their children, friends and families, but for ****** Airlines as well? Affairs can and do cause severe emotional stress that affects your customers' safety and the safety of your other employees. It is well known, that both parties involved in affairs commonly contemplate suicide because of the guilt and hurt they have caused to so many. You all know that pilots under extreme emotional stress are a danger in the cockpit. Ramp crews and baggage handlers operating heavy equipment are a danger to others and to themselves. Flight attendants are expected to handle emergency situations with clear minds and good judgment. Affairs often go on for months or even years, causing extreme emotional ups and downs in all it’s victims. I wonder how many ****** Airlines families have been destroyed, and how many accidents have been caused by your lack of oversight in this extremely serious matter! In the military, adultery is punishable by court martial. Why should it be any less of an offense with ****** when it has the possibility of creating the devastation just described? You don’t stand by when someone is smoking on your aircraft. Why would you stand by when you learn of an affair, which has even greater potential for disaster?"

Any comments and critiques are welcome.

Thanks everyone for your support, encouragement and wisdom.
RoT