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#1609426 03/10/06 01:11 AM
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Hmm. Try Posting in GQ2 - lots of people come there (many more than here)


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This is a very sad story for everyone involved. She told you that she wanted to have this guy to teach her to have sex in various positions so she could come home to do it with you? This has to be the most ludicrous statement I have ever heard. She was asking him to screw her every way possible just so she could make you happy when she returned to you? How insulting to your intelligence that she could even say this to you without laughing in your face. You can't seriously believe such a statement do you? Your health check for STD's and Aids needs to be tested. After everything you have written it is clear that being engaged to be married is simply meaningless to her and apparently to you also. Why in the world would you want to go into a marriage with this type of baggage? I don't see how you could ever feel special or have trust for each other if these things were going on while you were engaged.

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She told you that she wanted to have this guy to teach her to have sex in various positions so she could come home to do it with you? This has to be the most ludicrous statement I have ever heard. She was asking him to screw her every way possible just so she could make you happy when she returned to you? How insulting to your intelligence that she could even say this to you without laughing in your face.

Right on the money. And don't forget that the OM took pictures too, and she allowed him to do so! Imagine those pictures showing up on the day of the wedding... Either one or both of them is not running with all pistons firing, or this is the best troll-post I've seen in a long while.


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Agree MIM and I'll bet that she has been screwed many times before as well. Ladies who have limited sexual experience don't pose for the camera while they are getting screwed in 3 different positions. No Way.

Ummm If you aren't a Troll.... RUN


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Ask her why she felt it necessary to pose for pornographic pictures with and for a strange man, pictures are likely to show up years later, via the Internet or otherwise.

IMO, if she knew that she was doing something wrong, the last thing she'd want to do is allow it to be documented that way.

And I really don't want to go into the "shaving the pubis", OS and other activities that suggest this wasn't a first time thing.


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Once they spent their first night together and couldn't complete the act, he suggested taking the pictures, apparently the guy was big and strong so I concluded...

I believe that's the wrong approach. I think you need to find out the reason from her, and furthermore don't suggest your own reasons, otherwise she might mirror them back to you.

And your explanation This still doesn't explain her asking him to shave her pubis, her giving him OS, etc., acts that do NOT suggest that she was "scared" of him.

I get the feeling that this girl just wants to have fun, and engaging in a serious relationship with her is likely to end up being traumatic for you in the long run.


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Still, I can't blame her...she was totally out of herself

...or she might have been displaying that side of her character that comes out when you're not around. Perhaps a glimpse of what she really is like when she's not wearing the "personality mask" she wears for you.


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She has no answers..

Read that as meaning "she has no answers that she is willing to tell you".


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my question is...if she'd really like to hice it all, why did she tell me then ?

That's something only she can answer.


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Mi fiance has been the type of girl that wouldn't look a handsome guy just like that, you have to understand that this behaviour is totally out of place here...the OS, pics, shaving, it still sounds like a fake story to me but now I've faced the truth and I know that we have two options, leave it all behind or give it a last shot but not alone, this time we'd like to include God in our deisicions...

The point is she clearly IS that type of girl. If she acts like a ho, she probably is one. Very, very probably is one. She is absolutely no where near as sexually naive as you think she is.


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Do you consider any possibily of being mistaken?

Sadly. no.


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We got the same almost-certainly-a-troll on the EN board too. One of the male posters there did a good job of explaining why Darius' posts just don't sound credible.

Darius, get professional help. Whatever your story actually is, it's beyond the scope of a public message board to help you.

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