I signed up for one of those class reunion sites years back, just as a "free" member. Today I paid the fee so I could contact a few people that we've lost touch with about our upcoming wedding reception. On there I found the bio of the person whom I dated briefly between leaving my ex Humperdinck and reuniting with Westley. You can only see a few lines of the bio unless you are a paid member of the site. None of the following shows to "free" members, which I've been until today.

[color:"brown"]Never married, no kids. My all-time record relationship was about six months to... someone who shall remain nameless. (So much for the "high school sweetheart"...)

Anyone who says that it's better to have loved and lost than never to have loved at all needs to be shot in the head with a .40 caliber hollow-point round. Worst time in my life, worst decision I ever made. (She probably says the same of me...) Oh, well, at least she's happy now. Lesson learned: People suck and cannot be trusted, and love is overrated.

I'm still "hanging by a moment" five years later and it's slowly killing me. (Inside joke... You had to be there.) I've become a truly cynical S*O*B.

I used to fear that I'm becoming an alcoholic. Jack Daniels is my buddy! He and I have talked long into the night, discussing at length life's little ironies. Heh. A whiskey confidant beats a "whiskey lullaby" four times in five, but in the end, the result is the same: life (and consciousness) is optional...

Now I just don't care.

Have you ever been nursing a hangover and have an epiphany? When you stand at the precipice between life and death and take the measure of your life, will it all have been worth it? How will you be judged when this "grand game" called life is over? Think about it...

Gotta go... Jack's calling.

(Serves you right for reading this. Like you even remember who I am, anyway...)[/color]


I thought it was rather alarming, but then again, he wasn't really emotionally healthy anyway, as I also was not at that time, being fresh out of an abusive relationship. He might know my ID here, maybe even follows me around the Web like he did back then. He had a crush on me in junior high, and emailed me back when my ex and I were separating, through this same site. It was a quiet, abrupt breakup and I haven't tried to contact him over the past 5 years. Yes, I felt bad about it, no I don't expect him to understand or even believe that.

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Respond to what? I don't see any question directed towards you in his ramblings. Let sleeping dogs lie, IMO.

AGG

My thoughts are the same. Leave it alone.

A good example of why not to date right after a breakup.

Emotionally unhealthy people attract emotionally unhealthy people.

I will leave it alone, unless contacted. If he does directly contact me, should I ignore it, or simply explain that I'm married and well?

explain that I'm married and well.

I think he's past the point of "becoming" an alcoholic and having been married to one, I'd stay as clear as possible if I were you. Alcoholics are full of self-hatred and attempt to unload their feelings on those around them. Clearly he's blaming you for his current condition, which is of course, totally untrue. Unless you're looking for a guilt trip, stay away. There's absolutely nothing you can say or do to change his opinion or help him to see the light or help himself. Trust me... BTDT and got a whole drawerful of the T-shirts to prove it!

Gosh, xpC, this should become a billboard around here!!! Great words, great insight! I think this is one of those "you've come a long way baby" moments!



Tell Mr. I Have No Life By My Own Choice you have amnesia.........CLICK! <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/cool.gif" alt="" />

Buttercup...you're a newly married woman. Don't go playing those kinds of games....treading on thin ice, IMHO.

How would you feel if Westley suddenly responded to something like that?

...maybe he'd again gotta go but now for a (bloody) Mary's calling...

Really, what are you looking for?

You should know that this is no way to get from your M (nor your life) what you are missing...

Don't respond. If contacted by him, tell him you are happily married.

You know you are not responsible for this man. Good for you!!!

Judging by some of the responses my intent was entirely misjudged ... the first thing I did when I got home was tell Westley about this message.

My first instinct reaction was to email this guy and ask that he remove it, that I was offended that he would think I'd be so cold ... but the more I thought about it, the less inclined I am to even acknowledge that I read it. He is stalker material.

Westley agrees: if someone is still that messed up five years after a breakup, it's them not me.