I can't give too many details because my exH reads here sometimes. In short, my exH contacted me -- very emotional -- saying he regretted the A, etc and asking if there was a chance for us. He really was more like my old (real) H and it was great to talk with him like that -- we said how much we missed & loved each other. Then something happened (about the D and loose ends) and my H turned back into the WS. For some reason it hurts so much to know that real H is still in there -- easier to think of real H as gone forever. <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/frown.gif" alt="" /> And now I'm feeling really sad, down, weak, weepy. It just reopens all the old wounds and hurts me so much when he blames me for the consequences of his and is back to acting like a WS. <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/frown.gif" alt="" />

any thoughts or advice? how can I stay strong and build up an immunity to this? <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/frown.gif" alt="" />

I think it is not him but your own hopes hurting you, whenever his behaviour shows again and again that they are... false...

I really don't have any advice to offer because if you read my thread I am going thru the exact same thing. I just wanted to offer support. I thought I had moved on and I have allowed myself to be pulled in again by glimpses of the man I loved. I think Belonging hit it on the head. It is really our hopes that are hurting us. I'm still looking for the answers, but I have learned that life is too short and I am happy without him. Goodluck.