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It came up in another post that I should be checked for STDs. My H had a 5 night stand with OW. She was having SF with at least 2 other men. He swears he used a condomn every time but she performed oral on him twice. This was over in summer of 2002.

In 2003 I was diagnosed with bacterial vaginosis. On and off it took about a year to get rid of. And since 2002 I have had breakthrough bleeding after intercourse maybe 2-3 times after a certain position which was not painful but not comfortable. I had twins late 2001 so a nurse practitioner suggested maybe my cervix had moved because of the weight of the babies. My GYN had me do all sorts of ultrasounds (she is overly cautious) but I never thought to ask to be tested since I never thought my H would cheat on me.

It has been over for almost 4years but HPV is undetetable sometimes right? Are there any others I should worry about?


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HPV is more undetectable in a woman than a man but can be found with a blood test at any time. Get a complete blood screen. Tell your doctor to leave no stone unturned.

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Not to scare you, but my sister was experiencing painful intercourse. She asked me if I ever had and I said no, that doesn't sound right and you should have it checked out. I don't know if she ever did. My sister was promiscuous and died of cervical cancer caused by the HPV at age 47. I read somewhere they now have a vaccine for it - but it may still be in clinical trials. Get yourself checked and nip it in the bud.
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Dday 4/05; WH "needed space" and left 5/05
WH Filed D papers 6/05 - Divorce final 12/05
WH moved in with OW 11/05; moved out OW 1/06
12/06 His 3rd and strongest attempt at reconcilliation (I believe OW still in picture)
2/07 Affair over, begging me to take him back - it's too late.
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they now have a definative test for hpv...it just came out not that long ago. go get it done...along with a full screening for everything else.


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This might help.



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I'd suggest

1. HIV -6month window-
2. Herpes Virus
3. Hepatitis B and C -Antigen surface test-


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HPV does not always mean one is promiscuous. It can result from ONE sexual episode and can be harbored in the system for many, many years. This is why pap smears are so vital, on a regular basis. Incidentally, one can have HPV and have a negative test.

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Sfjaj,

Would a routine pap smear show HPV? I had a routine one done 6 wks postpartum, but was not aware of my H's A at the time, so I didn't ask for any STD testing. I did have the HIV/STD testing done at the beginning of my pregnancy, but that was pre-A...


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Routine pap smears do not show HPV. It should be an HPV-specific test. Gyns do not normally do an HPV test unless the pap smear shows cerivcal cellular changes that could indicate a pre-cancerous condition. This is because over 80 percent of the population has HPV within their bodies. It's just that our immune systems combat the virus. Even if you tested positive for HPV, there is no way to know when you contracted it. And not all HPV infection leads to cervical cancers. Does that help at all?

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Yes, I know I have to get the STD tests done, but just wondered if my Pap would have caught it... I have never had an abnormal Pap smear.

Thanks!


BW (Me) 39 FWH (41) Married 14 yrs DS 4/2000 DD 12/2002 DD 8/2005 PA 1/05 - 9/12/05 D-Day 10/13/05 Status: Trying to rebuild

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