Well, I found one 2night when I googled his normal screen name. I found others, but this one was for a webpage for a specific girl and the date to it was w/in the last 2 years or so....but it just showed up on google. He signed her webpage and began with a "Hey babe!"
Anyway....I googled my screen names, too.....I know I belong to a bunch of forums, but could only locate a handful of my posts.
There MUST be someway to tap deeper into the net to delve H's posts up. I know they are out there.
Any insight?
And of course, he denies this new finding...of course.
His style of writing....everything....What am I stupid??
Thanks for any possible insight.
I am operating without being able to install software <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/frown.gif" alt="" /> So, there must be some alternatives for me to dig the truth.

A keylogger on the computer he uses the most is the best method that I can think of. There are tons of posts here on MB about using them. You can buy them at most computer stores, or order and download them online.

Other than that, all I could suggest would be to try putting your H's name along with any key phrases that he uses often when he writes, or list key names that he might use in his correspondences as well (places, people, pets, etc...) when you do your online searches.

Use google and other search engines to search on email addresses he uses. Check for phone numbers he uses. Check for addresses he uses. Anything you can think of just keep searching for. Go into some of the familiar dating websites and perform a search using information that matches him, like his age, location, etc. and see what you get.

Does he use the computer at the house? If so, and if you have windows, and even if he clears the history. Unless he has a program loaded on the computer to erase the index.dat history file, it could have some of the previous websites he has visited. To access the information, just click START, then SEARCH, then ALL FILES AND FOLDERS, then put INDEX.DAT for All or Part of the file name and press enter. Windows will perform a search for all the INDEX.DAT files.

Once the search is complete you can click on the INDEX.DAT files to view them. It will probably give you a pop-up box that says OPEN-WITH, you would choose select from a program list, and pick NOTEPAD or WORDPAD. ***MAKE SURE [color:"red"]NOT [/color] to check Always use the selected program to open this kind of file

When you view the INDEX.DAT file it looks somewhat unintelligable, but there are recognizable URLs as you scroll through the information. When you exit from NOTEPAD or WORDPAD, do not save the information.