You may want to ignore it, you may want to hide it but both of us know there is something wrong. It may be that you are still in contact with OM. It may not be.

The truth is you don’t want anything to do with me. It is a struggle for you to call me, to talk to me. You don’t forget to call me, you just don’t want to. You have no interest in what is going on in my life.

I hate that I have to complain before you to talk to me sweetly. I hate that everything feels forced. I hate that you want to spend time with the kids until we have no time. I hate that you sleep until the kids are begging for breakfast.

I hate that when I crack my corny [censored] jokes and you roll your eyes, you used to laugh.

I hate that I treat you like a goddess despite all the pain you cause me. I hate that you refuse to pursue anything that may improve our marriage.

I hate that we have sex just because it is a need for me. I hate that this has been refused for years just because you don’t feel like it. Or that you are too tired.

I hate that you find me boring.

If you remember, I met you at a dance club. When we first started dating, we had a ****** of a time. I used to take you on motorcycle rides. Or we used to take out my convertible. I have none of that now.

We used to party all night and then make love until the early morning.

We used to rent movies and make out instead of watching them. Now it is a struggle for you to kiss me with passion.

Now you hate who I am but you made me. I married you and became a father to your daughter.

It is what I wanted to do but I did not know it would make you fall out of love with me. I go to work every day to support you, to put you through school. On the weekends I drive so our daughter can see her dad.

Do you appreciate it? No.

You tell me you love me. You tell me you need me, but I do not believe it. You push me away every day and it is painfully obvious to me.

Do you see it? I don’t know. How could I? You don’t talk to me about your feelings.

Vent here HurtE

(((HurtE)))

No consequences to her actions equals no motivation to change.

HurtE,

I can definitely relate to your frustration. Hang in there, maybe restating your boundaries will help. Maybe she just needs a reminder.

I think you should send this vent to your W. Hugs to you, I literally can feel your pain through your words. <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/frown.gif" alt="" />