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Hope this is the right place to ask this one. How does a man get a HUGE stain on the front of his BVD`S? I dont mean a quarter size, but a HUGE stain and this is not urine!!! Its almost like something was spilled on the front of the underwear but its not from that this is semen mixed with?
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What color is it? Could it be blood or do you think he spilled soemthing on there to cover the semen?
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OW 2yrs, he worked with her and found secret e-mail account.The first cut is the deepest.
just found out H is a serial cheater - total cut to pieces now- saw a D lawyer today.
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This is *ewww* material, but my guess is:
1. Came in underwear
2. Tried to clean it up afterwards
Lap-dance?
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its not blood, you can almost scrape it off its on the inside of his underwear you can also tell it was from an erection because of the area
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ohhhh---i definately need more coffee for this thread......
what we do in life......echoes in eternity!
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I dont know about a lap dance because he has not been gone at nite but I saw the same thing 4 years ago on his underwear and asked him and he said he didnt know what it was....lol. But had`nt seen anymore of it till now.
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ON THE INSIDE? *******************edit********
WHY DON'T YOU ASK HIM!?
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IS A GUY NOT ALLOWED **************WITHOUT BEING CONVICTED OF ADULTERY??
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well he was`nt ********darlin, we have sex every day
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sorry sweety I aint into ****** marks
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You have sex everyday,,,why should a stain in his underwears worry you?
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why do I???? I`ve been married to this man for 30 years and he NEVER has stains this size on the inside of his underwear before except for a fews years back to which I has asked him and he said he didnt know where they came from to which I found out he was having a so called JUST FRIENDS relationship <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/shocked.gif" alt="" />
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There are kits where you can "check out" whether it's semen or not or you can even send his underware to a lab and get them checked out. So don't wash them!!!!!
Honestly, this would get me thinking too.............so maybe I'm also silly.
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Me-46yo + Husband-49yo
Met 1975/ Married 1980
H had 3 month affair/D-d January 2001
Grandparents since Dec.2005
Recovered and moving on and we're looking forward to the years ahead!
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yeah there are abunch of US silly women ha???????
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I think she is asking a genuine question. Why do you have to be a jerk in your response to her?
My FWS and I had and still have sex every day - yet he had an affair. Having sex everyday doesn't keep someone from straying.
How are you on sleuthing? If this happened before, are there other similar patterns in his behavior from that time as well?
Read the articles on the site about detecting an affair.
Mention it to him and tell him you have made an appointment with a urologist for him to be examined. Maybe it is something physical.
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Thank you very much. A women knows when something is amist, ***************edit*************
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Aptiva...if you had seen this stain before, and you found out he was in "a just friends" relationship...then you should be suspicious,yes. Become a Sherlock HOlmes and see whats going on now!!
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Mention it to him and tell him you have made an appointment with a urologist for him to be examined. Maybe it is something physical. Be prepared if you do this, whether he has or has not strayed, he will be very offended and most likey get quite angry. <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/eek.gif" alt="" />
In the pasture of life, don't be a cowpie.
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BS 26 (me)
d-day May 30, 2004
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