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#1615117 03/17/06 12:00 PM
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Went to court to establish visitation/primary home stuff. We officially have the kids 5 days out of seven now.

We still have to pay child support (but only for a little while). She wanted $350 a month....once she saw she was going to get that, she signed without reading anything else. She pitched a fit over the phone at Wookie yesterday saying she didn't read it all and blah blah blah...said she was worried about getting to school (like what the eff does HER schooling have to do with child support and custody?)...Tuff stinkers.

Oh then she called OUR lawyer and told him we were harassing her...wtf? She called US! We have it on tape!

One step down. In a month she's getting hit with the manditory psych-eval and home study. Oh and we found out if she wants one on us she'll have to pay for it. LMAO.

She STILL doesn't have a lawyer.

Wookieman was uber bummed yesterday. Said it seems like we keep "giving in" to her and why can't we just hit her bam, bam, bam with all the custody stuff. I MADE him call the lawyer because if I've learned anything from 3 years of Affair he11, he won't listen to me even if my logic is so sound it's the metric weight of lead. So he called the lawyer and he explained it that we did it this way so we could show she was all about the $$ and not about what's best for the kids. After a month, she'll get the psych eval and home study (yea! a whole month for them to wreck THAT house), then, the next month we'll hit the judge up and say see? We've got them nearly full time and we're STILL paying CS...'sup with that judge man? If she fights, then all the home studies, nit picking (literally), her beating up on a cop (really - she did that) and the failures to comply with court orders (now at 3!) for not letting us take the kids or not being there at the proper drop off times. The lawyer HAD explained all this after court, but the Wookie was so elated/ticked off that she basically SOLD the kids to us for $350/mo and let us have them from Wed am - Sunday night every week that I don't think it all sunk in.

The lawyer even told us that once she saw the $350 figure she didn't read anything else...can you imagine. I'm still burning about it.

That's the scoop. I know you have ???'s...I probably didn't give enuf detail....so much to remember...should've made notes for you huh?

- Kimmy


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Kimmy - are you feeling like your prayers were answered? TT

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{{Kimmy/Wookie}} God blessings on you both


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TT - I still see the long road ahead. This was just a small step towards the horizon.

Thanks ladies.

I am a little relieved.


I never had to take the Kobayashi Maru test until now. What do you think of my solution?

O'hana means family, and family means nobody gets left behind or forgotten.

My Story

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good job!!!! it all happens with little steps....one after another and you finally find yourself at your goal. keep going!!! prayers still going up^^^^^!!!!!!


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Dealan-De:

My goodness,
I almost missed this!

Glad I didn't. <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/smile.gif" alt="" />

Man,
Sounds like things are working out about as Best as they could.
(Well, in the real world anyways .......not our Dream One) ........hee, he. <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/pfft.gif" alt="" />

I simply LOVE the way you guys have a Whole Plan thingeee going,
Step 1,
then 2,
then 3 .............Niiiccceeee!!!! <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/cool.gif" alt="" />

Its almost like You actually Learned something from being here on MBers (imagine that?? <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/wink.gif" alt="" /> <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/grin.gif" alt="" /> ) and thereby realize that the Person (with a real Plan and strategy) truly does have a Huge Advantage over those just thinking they are somehow "unique" ......and thus just wing it.

Boy,
I almost can't wait to read the next installment.
(Darn courts and the law and such, for dragging this all out ...don't they KNOW that America is about NOW, now, now??). <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/smirk.gif" alt="" />

Seriously though:
You have my Utmost respect for Doing what your Doing. <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/laugh.gif" alt="" />

(Take a bow, cause NOT ALL of us could!!!)
And that's the truth! <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/ooo.gif" alt="" />

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Good news Kimmy!

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Thank you TR!

>(Take a bow, cause NOT ALL of us could!!!)
>And that's the truth!

Maybe. You never know till your feet are already in the fire. I was one of those who always said she'd have walked. Learned never EVER to make absolute statements anymore (giggle...not never...not nohow!).

(waving)

Hi Weaver! What's for dinner at your casa? If it's Mexican, I'll be over in a jiffy.

- Kimmy


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O'hana means family, and family means nobody gets left behind or forgotten.

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