Just wondering what your thoughts are on RED FLAGS to watch for and pay attention to as far as green card fraud goes?
I married out of love,
but things and his behaviors just dont really seem right; they just dont add up and dont make sense.
I am beginning to get the idea that I am being used.
We do have one child together under 1 years of age and a surprise baby on the way; which he wants to abort. I wont agree to it. I am having it and he cant stop me. I am so worried about the stress causing a miscarriage, though <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/frown.gif" alt="" />
What signs do you think might tip me off of green card fraud by him??
I am just wondering if your thoughts about signs might match what I am seeing and experiencing. I want to get an idea of what others think signs might be before I reveal all the signs I am going thru. Right now, I think I am just crazy to think it.....but maybe other's input might clarify it more for me and get me to really see what is really going on.
And if I come to the conclusion that I am really being used....what in the world do I do from here???
This man is very, very good. He knows how to sweet talk me and get me reeled back in....but his behaviors always turn back into the same damned things after a few days of him being on his best behavior.
I feel sooooo ssoooooo stupid. And ashamed. I trusted this man and now I am beginning to hate him.
Thank you,
Emma

It is very hard to tell ANYTHING when your spouse is in an affair. If my WH was undocumented, I would swear that he only married me for a green card. He became completely uncaring and cold.

Emma,

I too married an immegrant. I don't think "green card fraud", as you call it, had anything to do with it. What do you mean by that phrase exactly? The way I think about it, there are alot of affairs, and some of them are undertaken by people who happen to be immegrants. I would not jump to the conclusion that there is any particular connection between those factors.

Take care of yourself. I really respect you for defending the life of your unborn child. Never give up that fight! Any man who wants to kill his own child is incomprehensible to me. I would give anything to have another child.

-AD