All BS's think of revenge at one time or another, I know that I had thought of it many times. I feel its part of the anger and grief. Wanting the other person to feel the same hurt you do.

Why not try to turn it constructive?

Let me share some beauty with you.

Human beings are remarkable, they come in all sizes and shapes. We have senses of touch, taste, sight, sound and smell.

I found that when my world fell apart, and I went stick throwing crazy...one thing that stabilized my world was to look at it.

Not my situation, but the world itself.

Listen to the rain on an old tin roof.

Watch the trees dance.

Pamper yourself, Male or Female, Take a hot bath complete with bubbles. Conditioner, lotion...make yourself FEEL outside how you want to feel inside.

Take time to watch the sun come up in the morning, and set in the evening.

Go to the park and watch children play. Don't watch the parents, just watch how happy the children are.

Trade smiles with strangers. The funny thing about this one is that your first few smiles will be strained, and feel fake. After a while they just grow on their own and you'll find something as simple as a smile can make the whole world seem brighter. They'll become more real after that.

Listen to classical music, even if you don't normally. No words to trigger, just the simple beauty of the notes.

Surround yourself in scents, mint, jasmine, cedar....things that make you let your breath out slowly.

Savor your food, try new dishes that you hadn't tried before. Take your time eating and enjoying it. Too many people rush something so important to our lives. Its a simple pleasure, and a good one.

Or like when I was a child, lay out in the yard, or sit out in a chair...and watch the clouds. Find the shapes in them, or lose yourself in them.

There is so much beauty all around us, just by living. It will be hard to look for it at first, but you'll find it. When you do cherish it to you, smile and hold it.

Believe it or not, when I did this my Confessed husband told me he saw me in a whole new way "Like when we met..but better"

Human's notice when you embrace life, because not many of us do anymore. We all rush so much, hurt so much, anger so easily....

That embracing it falls to the wayside.

Just some thoughts...
I would love it if others would post here even with one or two lines of what beauty you saw today that you could embrace.

Snuggles

stick throwing crazy

perfection..

belongs on bobpures favorite saying post...

love the visual..
love the thought of doing it..

ARK <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/wink.gif" alt="" />

Great post Snuggles.

My job has been a lifesaver for me during this time. I am a labor and delivery nurse. There is nothing like a brand new life entering the world to help you see the big picture. The hard work, the emotions, and the bonding that goes on in that room is amazing. I am always honored to be a part of that experience.
Two things always make me step outside of myself and fully appreciate life and being in the moment no matter what my circumstance is.
1. Being at the beach, feeling my toes in the sand and the sun on my face, the sound of the ocean, the smell of the salt water. I close my eyes and take it all in. I am nearer to God there than anywhere else on earth.
2. Holding a newborn baby. A new life, a clean slate, endless possibilities. Their vulnerability and potential always makes me want to be a better person.

Hugging a puppy and getting the full face licking from them. The unconditional love and return of it without a second going by.
JE

The first blooms of spring. The beauty of the blossoms on my Cherry Tree.

The innocence of childhood. Watching my DS - listening to him read.

losing myself in music.

This is a great thread!

Kim

My little cat smacking me on the side of the face, trying to wake me up...cuz it's time.

My little girl telling me she will no longer be able to go to the movies with one certain little boy because she is afraid that at some point he is going to want to hold her hand...and she just wouldn't be able to stand that.

White tea with pear

TGIF's hotwings

A really good hair day

Seeing someone on here finally released from their pain...when their joy comes back and they have more good days than bad. That's the best of all!

With Marie's blue cheese, those are the BEST! YUM! girlfriend, you are ALL RIGHT! <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/grin.gif" alt="" />

Today:
Watching my boys sleep early this morning when I couldn't sleep myself. Angels with outstretched arms and curled chubby hands.

A lady from California (i think) called Believer post to me again and again when I get on here during my pity party as of late. Wisdom, compassion, humor, and strength all at once to a total stranger.

Because of where I work, and after checking a family in just a few minutes ago--the health of my boys. Never take that for granted.

And of course the Diet coke that I drink all day. Ice cold of course. (and the snickers-mini I just snuck out of some easer candy we got donated, but don't tell, I'm trying to lose baby weight.)

Yep, I can totally relate. I look at that devastated woman I was after the false recoveries and D-days and I feel so sad for her. Thank goodness I am not that woman anymore. It is so strange to me, that it took going through this HEII, to show me how valuable I am. I have never been more content or peaceful.

I look at my beautiful girls, the pink-orange sunsets, the ocean (not often enough), the puffy thunder clouds, my friends and family...I could go on, but suffice it to say, I am one of the most blessed people I know. Life is good-- really, really good. I cannot seem to wipe the smile from my face these days <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/grin.gif" alt="" />

This post was great. Thanks!

Wonderful answers I love them!....

I had a busy day yesterday.

One of my flaws I suppose you could say is I tend to get wild "Home improvement hairs" stuck in places unmentionable.

Heres my good thought for yesterday.

The family actually rolled with it this time. When we moved into our home there was this fruit type wallpaper all over the kitchen and sunroom/breakfast area.

(coughs) My wild hair yesterday was to pull all the paper in the sun room down and make the room scream relaxation/romance.

The whole family rolled up sleeves and got to work peeling paper. (oh heavens)

Here is the wonderful thought. Both boys got into a contest to see who could get the biggest piece off. It was fun, I laughed...

And no one objected to the work.

I'll see what I can do about posting before, interim and after to this thread.

Heres another beautiful thing too.

As I walked into the kitchen to make a pot of coffee this morning..the sun was coming through those windows...shining on the white walls. Just filling the whole room. I could see the entire back yard.

Ever have a moment when time just seems to stop?

It was fantastic.

Time to drink this coffee, and start primering <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/eek.gif" alt="" />

Snuggles

Oh that's funny, because I always buy Marie's too!

Sure beats the heck out of those spam sandwich's Ark and Orchid were going on about...blech!!!!!!

Spam reminds me of cold wet tents, and giant mosquito's.

Spam sandwiches?

<SHUDDER!>

I'm sorry I've eaten some strang things...
but spam just uh..well...

Parts is parts?

Now a BBQ bean sammich on toast with a little grated cheese?
(swoon)
Snuggles

Oh stop Snuggles, you're making me hungry. <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/grin.gif" alt="" /> ...not!