My WH is not answering his cell phone. The realtor called about a price change (yet again) and needs to know by noon to get it adjusted in some publication that has a deadline of 1pm.

Since I know he is with OW at a horse show in houston, would it be okay if I called other woman's cell from my work phone and asked her to let me talk to my WH?

Too below the belt at this point?
Childish of me?

I haven't done anything I regret yet in this process, and thought I'd run this bt some of you guys.

I have never spoken to OW. That might hurt, though, huh?

What'cha think?

If not, I'll make the decision myself on the house.

Don't call. You can make the decision and let him know that you tried to reach him but couldn't.

Or you could leave it at the same price. Realtors always like deadlines, and another week won't hurt.

I agree with Believer -- Awesome suggestion.

Did the realtor want to raise or lower the price?

Kim

Raise it?
I wish. I've already lowered it 10,000. It NEEDS to sell. We have never moved in and it is a money trap. WOuld've been nice to know that when we bought this dream house and spent all summer fixing it up, that WH was going to suddenly walk out in August. Would've saved a lot of financial strain. A LOT!

I can't wait. It's a monthly publication. So if I wait, then the lower price won't go in. We've had the place almost a year. Aside from 2 months when WH first moved out and he went to live there by himself, the house has served NO purpose. I LOVED it. It was perfect for our family. But now I just need it to go away. Especially sice the district didn't renew WH's contract for next year, so he's jobless at the end of the school year.

Guess I'll just have to decide myself. It's only another $5000 lower.

Anyone want to move to TX and is looking for a GREAT house?

Maybe you need to lower the price then. Just do it, and let WH know that he was "unavailable" to POJA.

That's what I'll do. I left one message and a text message.

Thanks for keeping me grounded, Believer. There was this part of me that wanted to stir up trouble with the loverbirds, and I knew I shouldn't. I know it wouldn't make me feel better--temporarily maybe, but then I'd mull over it later.

Thanks. Off to call realtor. I'm working the weekend (aka I'm stuck here at the HOUSE from friday at 5pm to monday at 7am, so while laundry is piling up and i need to fill out online fafsa and work on my ebay auctions, I'll probably spend a lot of time on MB.) These kinds of weekends are sooo long. I'm always exhausted by Monday.

The best thing is to leave them to their own devices. When you go with the urge to cause problems, it just drives them closer together.

After D-day I did all kinds of crazy things. It feels good for the moment, but doesn't help your cause.

I like to do housework and post. It's raining here. I put the clothes in the washer, swept and vacuumed, sprayed down the stove and refrigerator, and then come here and post. It makes the housework go faster for me.

I have soooooooooo many urges. SO many. I just keep restraining myself. When this is all said and done, and if the fog ever clears for him, he'll be able to remember that I didn't do things like that.

But I sure think them.

I get this way especially when I know specifically they are out doing something. I keep thinking about how we had to arrange sitters to have dates--and they are getting a whole weekend (we never got a weekend except our 5 yr anniversary vacation) without needing a sitter b/c he knows the kids are safe at home with me.

I do not want to be bitter. I do not want to be bitter.

I told him yesterday that I really would rather not talk about OW with him. He says, "but she's nice. You'd like her. She a good person, intexas."
I told him I'd rather be friends with people who didn't sleep with my husband.

That ended the conversation.

"I told him yesterday that I really would rather not talk about OW with him. He says, "but she's nice. You'd like her. She a good person, intexas."

Well, at least he is going by the WH handbook. That should make things easier. They often are so WHACKED OUT that they say things like this. Any normal person is SHOCKED that they could think, let alone say, this. It just goes to show you that the alien abduction/mothership theory is true.

Hey intexas,
My best friends WH is in FL right with his OW at a horse show. Maybe the WH and OWs know each other??
Her WH tells her that his new "soulmate" and him share a love of each other and horses...I just laugh at that one as Her WHs OW looks like a HORSE!!
Not intending to trigger you, just was reading and saw the horse show thing and almost spit soda on the puter screen.
JE

Kind of like Prince Charles OW - Camelia or whatever her name was. He loved horses, and ended up with an OW that resembled one. Can you figure that out? He had Lady Diana, and was fantasizing about the other one. YIKES!!!!

Well my WH doesn't like horses-at least I never knew about it if he did. That's her thing. She and her WH used to train and race horses. he was a millionaire. My WH is an almost-out-of-work high school teacher.

I'd be quite pleased to imagine OW looking like a horse. In fact, that is what I'll call her from here on out--Horseface. Not very nice, I know, but much better than many other things I can think of. And since I don't know what she looks like (though WH kindly offered to e-mail me a pic of the fine equestrian a few days back <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/eek.gif" alt="" />), a horse seems an adequate idea to me.

Now if I could only stop thinking of them being together. Feel like I've taken a few steps back in this area--or rather I am finally getting to the angry phase. And I don't like how this makes me feel. Even little man Elliot is extra fussy today as I am sure he senses my tension.

GOOD FOR YOU!!!!! I'm impressed! FWH always wanted to talk about OW and I never could stop myself from listening to collect information at the time, but it would cause me a lot of pain for days after...

He can find someone more sympathetic to discuss OW with... and heaven knows he'll need to once things start to sour... and they will...

MSA

I hope the OW has a lot of money, so that she can support your husband.

She's rich. Sadly, WH has already said he'd do better off financially with her.

I always worked extra jobs to make ends meet, whether preggers or not. He's never had to take care of himself. Three weeks into the mArriage he quit his job and didn't work for 2 months. That's very stresfull when you're college students. Then he quit his next job for a YEAR!!!

But she is so much OLDER than he is. That will never work.

Sounds like you did too much. That is as bad as doing too little.

I agree I did too much. But if I didn't, he wouldn't have. And financially, someone has to step up to the plat.

After I got the job I have now, he quit his and decided to do a paper route since we were doing so well financially. He insisted I get up and help him roll papers and deliver them, even though I had two jobs already.

That is something you can work on with a counselor. I know what it is like, because I did way too much of the work in our marriage. It makes the other person have a sense of entitlement.

Does it make them have that sense of entitlement? How? I can see it adding to it, but I also don't know what one should do when the other refused to make the effort.
It was either I got the extra job, or we'd be in a financial strain.

I wasn't trying to contribute to the entitlement--simply trying to get by.