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My wife filed for divorce about 3 months ago, its final in 3 days. We both ignored each other for about the last 5 of our 20 years, me too much time in front of the tv and her spending a lot of time with friends playing cards and partying. She said she is no longer in love with me but I definitely am in love with her. Part of the problem is my lifelong depression, over which I recently started getting treatment since the divorce pushed me emotionally to the edge of suicide. She is already living with our two sons in a separate house. Is a situation like this fixable? The more I tell her that I love her the more she pulls away. Any suggestions would be helpful.
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Welcome to MB. Sorry to hear about your situation. It looks pretty bleak, but there is always hope. Even if the D goes through, there are examples of people who stil reconcile and later remarry.
I recommend you read as much as you can on this site to learn about the principles of what makes a M strong. Right now you need to focus on you, and get yourself to a healthy place.
BS 40 (me) FWW 39 D13, D10, S5 Married 12/95; PA ~3/96; EA ~1/10 D-day 2/16/06 (ten year secret) Current status: Newly discovered EA My story (part 1)
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Wow man! Mr biskit,
I'm sorry you are in this situation. But, you are asking a bunch of amatures how to fix this 20-year marriage in 3 days? I don't think we can do that, but even as the D goes through, there still can be hope of putting it back together.
I've been divorced a few months now, and I still have some hopes of putting mine back together.
Is your wife involved with another man?
Please, tell us more.
Oh, and the weekends are not very busy around here. Monday morning, if nobody has posted to your thread, just come back to this same thread and post an update with more information. That will bring it back to the top of the page so that other people can see it.
-AD
A guy, 50. Divorced in 2005.
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If an A isn't involved, then go read His Needs/Her Needs by Dr. Harley....ASAP!!!
Then come back and talk to us. Well you can post as you are reading..... you will learn about plan A. It will help but you have t/b patient. 20 years is a long time and the fix isn't instant.
L.
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