My husband just got a motorcycle and he goes riding all of the time. That doesn't bother me, he is just having fun. He will be gone for hours and come back with having no clue he's been gone that long. He's having fun, you lose track of time. However, now he's bought me a helmet, whenever I ask him if I could go with him he makes up excuses like you would be too cold, you need to get your homework done. He also often goes riding early in the morning when I'm not awake, I just hear the garage door and that is the only way I know he's gone. He's not a morning person so that doesn't make sense to me.

None of this really made me think he was cheating on me, it was something else he said. I guess he keeps in contact with this 18 year old girl through work. He says she "calls him 3 to 4 times a week and just talks and won't get off the phone." Then he said next Friday she wants the whole company to go out that night. I asked him if I could go...and he said that she said the funniest thing...you can't bring your families. This sounds like it is a lie to me. Now it has made me wonder if all of these long trips he goes on is to see someone. I have no other evidence though, nothing else to make me think he's cheating on me. Am I just being over paranoid.

I can't tell if he is cheating from what you've told me.
It seems you need some reasurance that everything is ok.
I would calmly ask him what is going on and then let him know what concrens you in a quiet manner. I certainly don't
think its time to start planning a family with this guy.

My husband recently got a cycle as well. I not keen on riding but have gone on occasion. He continually goes out by himself although he says he would prefer riding with others and has joined several riding clubs. Recently I found he had contact a club where members can hook up with the opposite sex "biker chicks" and infact he had contacted one. I did trust my husband but that flew the coop definatly check up on him and I would also go to the party whether invited or not. This girl needs to know your alive and you need to let your husband know you really care and love him. He may be needing reassurance that hes still manly to a woman. SIt and talk about your feeling and let him know meeting people without your partner is what marriage is about.
Good luck.

I had the same problem with my H and his motorcycle he would be gone for hours while I was at work though he could`nt(would`nt) say where he`d been. But when I was on his motorcycle we`d ride for only 30 min!!!! RED FLAG there. Found out he was seeing a lady friend for years on that bike and much more.Your instincts are telling you something follow them you know your H.

Red flags!!!!!!!Red flags!!!!!!!
And on your other post you are talking about loaded guns.
Please follow your instincts!

Sheesh, I'd tell him if they said no families then it meant he couldnt go either! Just say "Oh, I guess that leaves you out since you have a family!" I'd insist on going or he staying! lol

I am new to this site but have been married for 16 years with 5 kids. My H has had a female friend since a short time before we were married. Her and I never got off to an okay start. He would ask me not to show any public display of affection in front of her when we were dating. Through the course of our dating I became pregnant...was on pill and took antibiotics that canceled out the pill. Needless to say she said I was trapping him into marriage even though he proposed and we were mutually agreeable and in love. As the year have passed she would go to the movies or dinner alone with him, discuss her female body issues and he would become angered with me when I said this was highly inappropriate behavior. H said she was his friend first and if I asked him to choose he would pick her friendship to show he can't be controlled. He told her how upset their friendship made me and she called me a B**** and he never even defended me. Fast forward a few years and she marries and moves to another state and the contact becomes almost nil...Thank goodness. Well here we are and her H left her and she is now calling my H to talk and get his advice. He said he won't even discuss it with me because I knew about her 16 years ago and oh well. I am sick inside and so tired of it all....I hate this anger and don't know what to do....

i have ridden mc's for years...and ride with differnt groups...in fact the gal im dating now loves to ride and we ride together all the time...i do know alot of guys i ride with that would love their significant others to ride, some of the "others" have no desire...so they ride alone.

if you are WILLING, and if you WANT to ride and he still makes excuses...start looking alittle deeper...

as for the party....i hope you dont take offense to this but in my honest opinion as a man.....hes full of sh*t!!
** if he still goes to party without you and you decide to show...(if there really is a party) just be prepared for a "scene" because he will be mad and PREPARE yourself for what you may see...

if he is messin around...better to get it out now than later!

kaura1628,

my wife did the same thing with a married man who left his wife during an affair and my X "consoled" him during his rough time....fast forward...my X ran off with him and we are now divorced...i am an affair survivor and the fella needing "consolling".....well....you guessed it!! they are now married!

just be careful of this gal who is on a serious re-bound!!