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Radical Honesty & IC
#1616430 03/20/06 04:20 PM
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I know Harley favors a Policy of Radical Honesty, is IC covered in this? In other words, should I share with my FWW what goes on in my IC and vise-versa, or should this be on a selective basis?

Along those lines, I'm also curious about suggestions my FWW therapist is giving her (in an effort to see if she really is pro-marriage, of which I am skeptical). Should I be asking (& providing) my FWW for this information? Or is this stepping over a line?

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dchelp #1616431 03/20/06 04:33 PM
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Reveal to your spouse as much
information about yourself as you know;
your thoughts, feelings, habits, likes,
dislikes, personal history, daily activities,
and plans for the future.

I don't see that discussing with each other what goes on in IC would be over-stepping. Doing so seems like it would fall directly in line with The Policy of Radical Honesty and NOT doing so would seem to go against it.
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frozen1229 #1616432 03/20/06 05:05 PM
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I would think that the very idea that my spouse need not know is proof positive that ,indeed, they better know.

Divorced:
"Never shelter anyone from the realities of their decisions": Noodle

You believe easily what you hope for ernestly

Infidelity does not kill marriages, the lying does

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