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Something I forgot - last week I sent her a little note in the mail she told me thank you and nothing else was really said - does everyone think that it will be ok to send another one some time this week?

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IJ,

She has difficulty being alone. That is a deep, important issue for her to look at and understand. Addictions are distractions--shortcuts away from the very selves they are looking for, usually.

You sound like you have your own issues, with feeling rejected, believing you have the ability to smother, your own deep needs...if you decide one note a week is reasonable, then it is reasonable.

How did you feel that nothing else was really said besides thank you? How do you feel about her putting her addictions before you? Did you return to Al-Anon for another meeting? Loving detachment and other great tools are there for you, if you want them. (I mention that because of the path you mentioned.)

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Actually a Thank You was better than the you don't need to send me anything cause we are through that I exspected to hear. She also did something even more strange she wished my sister a happy birthday.

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So, it's been about 3 months now...
1. How long do you plan to be in plan a?
2. How long does the 'board' recommend you be in plan a?
3. How is your self-dignity holding up?
4. How is your health? (Weight)


9 years now ... and some days you still say grrr!
Hang in there.
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a real quick answer to the questions

1. I have really only been in plan A for about a month now. All the other time I was too busy fighting with her trying to get her to see my way.

2. Who knows

3. With her I am building it back up.

4. I have lost about 30 pounds.

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