Hello everyone, I have mediation this Thursday with STBXWH on child custody/visitation issues.

I am not sure how to handle things as far as seeing him.

I have been in Plan B but have had some contact with him as far as the kids are concerned.

This last weekend, he came to get the kids for the first time in months and took them over to his apartment. When I asked where my kids were going to be, he got really hateful and started saying that all I needed to know is that they will be with him and that noone needs to tell him how to take care of his kids.

I walked away b/c the kids were present and starting to get upset. I called him immediately on his cellphone and told him that he owed me a apology for speaking to me that way in front of the kids when I have a right to know where my children are at all times. He said that he did not want to talk about it now and would talk to me later. Later never came.

I am definitely bringing this up in mediation Thursday along with a couple of other things like him making our DD9 change the baby all weekend. He did not change the baby once <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/mad.gif" alt="" />

He is still hiding his A w/MOW from everyone including the kids and I. I don't understand why he is still trying to hide it from everyone and if they mean so much to each other why aren't the telling the world how much they love each other. YUK

Well STBXWH rescheduled mediation AGAIN! How is it that he can keep putting it off and not have to take responsibility for anything.

I am so frustrated, it just seems like no one cares that he is not paying child support (I have not gotten a dime since the end of August) and that he does not show up for court (has not came to the only 2 court dates that we have had) and this is the second time he has rescheduled mediation.

I am just ready to get all of this D stuff over with so that the kids and I can move on and have peace. I thought he was so determined too but he just keeps putting things off and NO ONE seems to care.

The courts always say how much they just care about the kids, well they have a funny way of showing it.

My attorney always say "don't worry, he is not getting away with anything b/c they are going to go back to the date of filing so he is just digging himself a deeper hole with the back child support and spousal support" well that is not helping me now.

Does the Judge care, does anyone care??????????????

I know how you feel. When my kids were little and their father left for another woman, he kept postponing the court. Everytime I went, it cost me $250., plus time off work. It made absolutely no difference to the judge that I could see.

We finally settled out of court. Or should I say I RAN OUT OF MONEY.

Prayers to you. I know how hard this is.

I just needed input from WS or FWS or anyone who might know.

My STBXWH has not shown up for court and this is the second time he has canceled mediation. I'm starting to think that he is either avoiding me out of guilt or is having second thoughts about this D.

Has any WS or FWS who went through or is going through a D ever avoided the BS and why. Was it out of guilt or b/c you started having second thoughts about if you really wanted to go through with the D?

I would really appreciate any input.

I don't know Pepsi. My WH is not doing anything to help me move this D along at all. But I don't think it is out of doubts, I think my WH is just living in a different place than the rest of the world. He is in loooove and nothing else matters.

When I was the WW, I had written up all the papers, but never did anything with them. BH would put some pressure on me when his GF pressured him, but he never took matters into his own hands.

Your WH will have to start paying something if he shows up - seems logical that is why he is stalling.

Thanks for responding Jean. Yeah I had thought about that too and by him stalling the financial, he is just putting himself in a deeper financial bind b/c he is going to have to owe me starting Nov 05.

Also I just found out that the State is still going after him. So the hearing he had requested is Wednesday-I am kinda of glad that he has not given me anything yet b/c I rather go through the state then through the court b/c the state have mandatory withholding. Plus the state cares b/c they are footing the bill while he is not paying and they want their money back. So by him not giving me anything has actually turned out to be a blessing.

Well my STBXWH is still pretending that he is not in his A.
Don't know why but they are still in hiding.

BUMP for help