I have a hypothotical (sp) question. EA seem to be worse than your average PA. Although I am healing as long as my outside OM leaves me alone I'm ok. Remember we "were friends" before this all took a spiraling turn to ******.
My question is on the average do EA's because they are not physical burn out in a quicker time period than a PA? Not getting any so the pair move on. OR are they more mentally consuming where they can last for years on end.
Why am I asking? Well, I was just thinking maybe my OM's obsession with me has a time limit where he would naturally become bored with me and move on. Thought I was free and didn't need to change my cell and low and behold a txt. I changed my number today and while on hold with customer service was thinking,,, is there a natural burn out time where I won't have to look over my shoulder anymore?
Also, there was touching involved between the 2 of us. Nothing on the lines of sexual but hugging on few occassions, touching in passing...this is a PA even though sex never happened....right. Right before I changed my number with CS I replied which I know was wrong and wrote you are having an EA (written out so he would understand) with me and we probably crossed into a PA as well since you can't keep your hands off of me, think about it and what you, we have done. Then txt'd what would you wife think?
Gotta job search. I like this vacation thing but it does get old when you wonder where your next paycheck will come from and your H is a little upset with you due to the fact if it weren't for the A I wouldn't be looking for work!

I don't know the statistics but I have seen posted that EA's can be stronger than a PA. However, I am not so sure that is the case with you. I still think there is something seriously wrong with your OM. Something more than just an EA. You really need to protect yourself from this guy. Please get the restraining order and please expose to his wife.

Is your husband blaming you for being out of work? Short-sighted thinking on his part. He should discuss that with someone. What you did, you did for him. Some day he will realize that. Be patient with him.

Basically H is saying if I didn't allow myself to get into this position I wouldn't be out of work. The money isn't tight at the moment but it will be shortly if I don't find a job replacement.
I'm thinking the OM is obsessed. I just want it all to quietly go away, funny how those in A's can be sneaky and quiet while it goes on but when it comes to the ending part it gets awfully noisy.

Basically H is right. On the other hand, what you did was not easy and you did it for him and the marriage. It sounds like he is going to have to learn to deal with this in time. If he doesn't, it will hurt both of you. Can he get counseling? I know it doesn't seem fair to you and that is because it isn't. Stay strong and stay safe.

Too bad you didn't stay around your job and have OM harass you. You could have sued for millions for a hostile work environment. Maybe you still can!!!

If you see any sign at all of OM. Call 911.


Dang!!! Did it AGAIN!!! Sorry for the gemela post. I was on my way to bed and I am tired. This was traicionado.

traicionado: the idea of a lawsuit bothers me - it is time we placed the responsibility on those involved.

Hope, I'm not trying to duck my responsibilty in this. This is why I haven't taken any "legal" actions thus far. Kind of like the you asked for it you got it phrase. In the same breath, it's to the point I said stop and he won't therefore he himself will be responsible for any reprocussions I may be dish towards him if he doesn't just forget me. I am trying to give him the chance to see through that same fog, hoping he is just hopeleslly in love with the fantasy of me and will get over it and move on without stirring up too much dust. I just want to bow out quietly and although I can't for get it ever happened I could move on and never repeat the same mistake twice.

smfry13: I was addressing previous poster. It seems to me that you are taking responsibility.

IMHO: I think you should talk it over with H to see if a RO is needed (POJA)