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BTW, I do understand that you are saying you are doing the best you can right now to eliminate the LBs you've identified.
LBs that go unidentified and therefore uncorrected cause a lot of destruction. Given the stage you're at, it's not likely you've identified them all.
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I have read over the LB's...no she won't. I asked her to go to MC so we can work together to learn to communicate etc... she won't do this either. She does not want to talk about us right now at all
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I just spoke with a friend of hers today...they have known her for many many years and in relationships prior to ours. He says that while she is a wonderful person - she has a tendancy to self defeat...that once happiness is possible she often finds a way to self destruct...he also said that she has never had to face any consequences for her actions - particularly in realtionships...and that she always makes sure she is in the driver seat.
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I just spoke with a friend of hers today...they have known her for many many years and in relationships prior to ours. He says that while she is a wonderful person - she has a tendancy to self defeat...that once happiness is possible she often finds a way to self destruct...he also said that she has never had to face any consequences for her actions - particularly in realtionships...and that she always makes sure she is in the driver seat. Can you pick out the DJs in that post? Give it a shot and we'll help you.
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And I can't tell whether you've answered this question or not: Have you asked her to fill out the LB questionnaire? As in, have you printed it and asked her nicely as a favor to you to fill it out?
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I did ask her to do this...I told her i wanted to work on us...that our marriage was too important and our familty was too important to not try and work this out. she said it is too much pressure on her right now. she said she doesn't want to talk about us at all and that all she wants to worry about is her job. She said she can't feel guilty about me or our daughter right now.
DJ's she has a tendancy to self defeat
she often finds a way to self destruct
she has never had to face any consequences for her actions
she always makes sure she is in the driver seat.
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