no wife for other... my wife wants me out next month.
Tell her no. If she wants to seperate, she should be the one to move. If you want to save your marriage, you must stay there. Many courts view it as ABANDONMENT if you leave your family. If you move out, she will be free to carry on her affair from the comforts of YOUR HOME in front of your children. Unless you want this OM in your home taking your place, I would suggest NOT moving.
Please read as much as you can about Marriage Builders, especially Plan A. You should be in Plan A now, doing your best to ruin her affair. Your only hope of saving your marriage is to ruin her affair.
Read below:
The Carrot and the Stick of Plan A by Pepperband
The carrot of Plan A
Meeting your wandering spouse's emotional needs.
Making "home" a warm and inviting place to be.
Placing emphasis on what has worked in the marriage.
Showing consistent self improvement in areas where previously lacking.
Stop lovebusting behaviors.
Communicating with a calm reassuring voice and relaxed body language, even in the center of a verbal storm created by the infidel.
Becoming the person any reasonable spouse would want to come home to.
Remaining open to the possibility of recovery.
Offering forgiveness and understanding.
The stick of Plan A
Exposing adultery where it matters most. Exposure that takes the form of a swift and sudden unexpected tsunami of truth.
Not appologizing for exposure or speaking the truth in a kind yet direct way.
Directly communicating the hurt and devastation that the affair has caused.
Not accepting blame for the infidel's choice to become adulterous.
Let the consequences of adultery and infidelity fall freely upon the heads of the adulterous.
Establishing boundaries that disallow the affair to effect children of the marriage, financal security of the marriage, and otherwise ruin innocent bystanders.
Standing up to infidelity as a beast that must be slayed for the good of the family.
