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" Of course they were all a bunch of jerks because they did him wrong."
" he prides himself on maintaining contact with many different people and they seem to like him."
" it's all about him! "
-T2D Inflated sense of self worth? Check Maintains Narcissistic Supply? Check World Revolves around him? Check He's a Narcisisst!
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Call me what you want. I just left my wife (23 years married) 3 weeks ago. I have 2 kids at home(10,15). I coudn't stand the pain in my head living in RANCOR. I nearly blew a gasket when she said. "I'm happy". I quit my job last september when it was obvious my affair was showing light. I made the decision ...a concsious decision to spend a weekend with a colleague at work. Why? Because we had lived in withdrawal for for so many years...I thought it was normal. And each time I asked my lovely wife to be home on Sunday, she was off spending $1,000.00 of dollars with the kids at volleyball tournaments. Our monthly expenses have grown to $14,000 a month. I have refinanced the credit card debt 3 times and the home we bought for $400k in 1990 is now mortgaged to $720k. The reason I changed jobs so much in the last 5 years (5jobs) was to find one that paid more to pay the debt. Last year I found her with another 70k in credit cards. My last job paid 22k per month and I hated it! My employees hated me and I hated myself because of the way I had to manage to get results. Yes! we broke every record in the books over the last 18 months but the real record was not having an affair for 23 years under these conditions. I AM the true WORKING STIFF. I worked 60-65 hours a week trying to make ends meet and now I'm the "bad daddy" who left my wife. I wont ever trade my life again for a woman who thinks she deserves what ever she wants under the disguise of "love for the kids". Thank God I found this site and understand the 3 states of marriage. I told her tonight I choose "joy and passion" in my life. Do I look forward to divorce..NO! Am I happy by MYSELF...Yes! Do I have a lot to learn and can I make the changes?...YES! I took the first step by walking out. Narcissism? No , just no tools to pick up and apply to my trade. I told the "honey" we are done before I found this site. Today I want to work on my marriage and successfully accomplish what I know is true and morally right. When i asked my wife if she looked at MB...she said she didn't have time. Of course..Another tournament in Atlanta last weekend and another in LA this week. Who's got time for a marriage? Who's the selfish one? <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/confused.gif" alt="" /> Who's protecting the kids from spending time with their father? Who's life is about to be shattered...all of ours! Who spent 38K in Dec.? It wasn't the Narcissist.
FWH 50
BS 50
S 12
D 16,20
DOM 08/1983
Divorce final 7/19/07
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Welcome, AGP4L...
I see you triggered to the thread title, also. Your story is important. Would you consider cutting and pasting it to your own thread, still under Infidelity, GQ II?
Did you know you're not nuts? That Financial Security (FS) is very similar, painfully similar, to As in the betrayal department?
We'd like to help you in your goal. I look forward to posting on your own thread.
LA
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