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#1619149 03/24/06 08:29 PM
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Mimi, I am surprised that you are bringing your very apparent - and vocal - personal resentment against Lemonman to this thread. THAT is not helpful and I hope you don't allow your aversion to him and that kind of "gutter language" to divert you from the the issue at hand. That would be very tragic for Kimberly.


I don't have any PERSONAL RESENTMENT towards Lemonman. I feel that he has resentment towards me.

I will respond each time that I FEEL that he is insulting to me. I have that right.

I will no longer be disrespected by him or anyone else..even on a forum and I will give my opinion regarding what I experience as being an OFFENSIVE means of communication.

I feel that it is unfortunate that he used such language on Kimberly's thread with respect to his opinion regarding EXPERTS OR NONEXPERTS...

He does not matter enough to me for me to become emotional enough to RESENT him...

My actual feelings towards him don't matter..but RESENTMENT is not how I would describe it...

I tried to apologize to Kim by saying that maybe I misread her statements regarding her Steve Harley session. I will continue to try to focus my efforts on helping others and NOT BEING OFFENSIVE....

I personally don't feel that ANGRY OUTBURSTS or DISRESPECT TOWARDS OTHERS IS HELPFUL IN ANY WAY...

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Mimi, I am not going to get in the middle of your issues with Lemonman, but I think it is pretty clear to most observers that you have serious issues with him. You posted as recently as today that the mere mention of his name on GG's thread had "tainted" the thread. If that is not resentment, then my name is Micky Mouse, Mimi.

But, your issues are your issues; I only hope that you don't bring them to someone's thread who really needs help. That is not helpful to anyone.


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Why do you think that I have more issues with him than he has with me..just wondering...

Georgia, knows I was kidding...

Think what you want...

You have that right...

He has serious issues with me...so I respond in kind...

I have my opinions about him..BUT NOT SERIOUS ISSUES...


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(ROLLS EYES).....Do we have to do this everytime you are offended Mimi? For the record I was not talking about you at all in Kimberly's thread. THE THREAD WAS NOT ABOUT YOU....not about you !!!!!!!!!You had your "attention" thread already...this one WAS not about you !!!! AT ALL.

I USED "VULGAR" <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/rolleyes.gif" alt="" /> LANGUAGE to make a point reagrding Kim's struggles with a point that is VERY CLEAR to many people...That is what I do. It is my "MO", it is the way I make points. I am sorry if that is not your style...whatever...but that is not my problem. Nothing I said WAS directed to you or about you or about the person next to you, or about your neighbor, your doctor, your lawyer, your therapist, your grocery salesman or your insurance agent.....IT HAD NOTHING TO DO WITH YOU PERSONALLY.

I have to be dead honest with you.....I don't have near the "issues" with you that you think I do...LMAO....I don't hate you...I don't even dislike you...YOUR INDIFFERENT TO ME....SO, please...for the love of God, do yourself a favor and stop taking personal offense from things that I say THAT HAVE NOTHING TO DO ABOUT YOU. I cannot help the way that my posts make you feel. I can't change that, and I won't change that. You feel the way you want to feel. Let me help you out here a little. PUT ME ON IGNORE. That way, any post that I make you don't have to see. That way, there will NOT be any potential for confusion if a post was directed at you. Spare me the "oh it was just a joke" about me on the GG thread....your being a dead hypocrite girl......let me let you in on a little secret honey....IT AINT JUST ME who thinks this way. I wil leave it at that.

Leave the personal squabbles OFF Kim's thread. If Kim doesn't like the language I used, I am more than happy to correct things as she would like.

Please, let this go....PLEASE. This will be the last post I make in reference to this today...this needs to die right now....It's over...dead.

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Some people just don't get it, they don't get it that they don't get it.

I had the right to remain silent.......but I didn't have the ability.
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Mimi, I see that your issues with him are PERSONAL, whereas his issues seem to be with the ADVICE you give. There is a huge difference.

But like I said before, that is YOUR ISSUE and I don't really care about it. All I care about is that it doesn't disrupt a certain person's thread. A person who is very dear to me who is in a critical stage of recovery.

I don't think that saying that the mention of his name has "tainted" a thread was meant to be funny. I don't believe you would take it that way if I said the mention of "Mimi has tainted this thread."


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Why do you think that I have more issues with him than he has with me..just wondering...


What difference does it make who has more?

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He has serious issues with me...so I respond in kind...


And how is that workin' for you?

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I have my opinions about him..BUT NOT SERIOUS ISSUES...
You think?

Something to think about.


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Queen Susan:

I was just thinking about you today...

How was the PARADE?

Melody, Susan and Lemonman...

OK..OK....

I'm throwing out my WHITE FLAG...

You're right..

What matters is that Kim is OK....

But why is it necessary to say people are FULL OF IT...whether it is about me or not?

This POV of mine is not specific to Lemonman but to any intelligent person that has to talk that way to make a point...just a pet peeve of mine..for some reason...

Maybe some deep-seated underlying issue from my past that I need to work through.... <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/rolleyes.gif" alt="" />



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No [censored]! <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/grin.gif" alt="" />


"It is not the critic who counts; not the man who points out how the strong man stumbles, or where the doer of deeds could have done them better. The credit belongs to the man who is actually in the arena.." Theodore Roosevelt

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p.s. I love ya, Mimi! <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/smile.gif" alt="" />


"It is not the critic who counts; not the man who points out how the strong man stumbles, or where the doer of deeds could have done them better. The credit belongs to the man who is actually in the arena.." Theodore Roosevelt

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For the record, I believe I read LM's comments as he intended and didn't find them offensive. I didn't quite get why you took such offense to them or why you would have interpreted anything he said as directed towards you....just that you seem to be hyper sensitive to his comments due to a few conflicts and disagreements in past posts.

Your are both entitled to your opinions and individual posting styles. Both of you have great value for your own unique perspectives.


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No [censored]! <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/grin.gif" alt="" />

You RANG? <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/laugh.gif" alt="" />


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**snort** Was someone's ears a ringing?? <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/grin.gif" alt="" />


"It is not the critic who counts; not the man who points out how the strong man stumbles, or where the doer of deeds could have done them better. The credit belongs to the man who is actually in the arena.." Theodore Roosevelt

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My husband is watching a movie that I found booooooring. I couldn't watch it anymore.

I thought I heard y'all talkin' about me. <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/cool.gif" alt="" />


Money can buy you a fine dog, but only love can make him wag his tail. ~ Kinky Friedman

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