So the man who is divorcing me sent me a text wishing me a happy birthday...well today is NOT my birthday. We've been together probably 16 years. I know it's petty but it just points out to me that his focus is only on him and his needs.

When we were together I always made a big fuss about his birthday. He always enjoyed it and although the shy type he always went along with the plans I put together. He never did anything for me on my birthdays.

Since our separation and now that he's filed divorce papers I've done nothing but try to meet his emotional needs. He not only remains so angry, but he is vindictive and carry's a big need for retribution.

On his last birthday (when we'd been separated 6 months) we went to a nice B and B to celebrate. I had a lovely time and he seemed to also, until we got home and then he emailed me an ugly message.

Can anyone say passive aggressive?

ugh...sick of all this trying.

Hopeful,

All I can say is I am sorry. Nobody deserves this treatment but there are so many of us that get it. You did not deserve any of this, it is his choice to be that way...

What are you doing to take care of YOU?

Sorry he got it wrong, but could it have been an honest mistake?? I know how frustrating him getting it wrong is, but maybe he did try to remember.

On my last Bday, WH came and picked up more clothes and took his mistress out for a nice dinner. He didn't acknowledge my Bday at all <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/confused.gif" alt="" />

Thanks for the reality check. True...no biggie. I guess I'm just feeling sorry for myself. The funny thing is...everynight I go to sleep in my bed, with my dog, in a flat that I love...I'm content and happy.

So it's sunny today! I'll go to yoga, clean a bit, go see some open houses (I can dream can't I?), maybe a movie and dinner with a friend..

Life is good...I do hope someday I'll be able to find a man who wants to be a good companion to me ( MY most important EN)... I swear I'll try very hard to meet his.

Take care and thanks for the support.