Hi Cheated On,
You're one of the fortunate ones whose WH is doing his best to make it up to you. My WH decided to take his MC's advice to find himself for two weeks as I implemented plan B 3/19 the night he left for an out of state business trip. H had a nearly 2 yr A. D-day 2/1/06.
I'm also going through the same emotional struggle as you are though in a lesser degree. You've gotten a lot of advise on what you can do. But, I get the sense that those advise hasn't quite mended your emotional issues towards your WH. Perhaps because you haven't completely "forgiven" him which is most difficult.
Offering your forgiveness may help you chisel your resentment towards your H one small piece at a time. It's like carving a block of ice to create a piece of art. It requires patience, care and focus. Without them, you have nothing left for which to create a maginificent work of art which is your marriage. So don't rush and expect your emotions to be the way they used to be before the A. Focus on your kids instead and be the best parent you can be.
My MC recommended "Feel the Fear and Do It Anyway", by Susan Jeffers, Phd, paperback, $14.00. We, BS go through so many fears after an A that it so far has helped me deal with my own fears and turning them around. I'm usually not one for self-help books unless they deal with business. One of the most important thoughts that struck me was we or you have a choice to wake up in the morning and wallow in self pity or self doubts as a result of our WS A and be in pain. OR we can choose to get up and do something positive. I know it sounds cliche, but times like these is when we really need it. I can honestly say that if plan B doesn't work, I am okay with it. In fact, since my H left and haven't heard from him at all, I've become stronger person.
Good luck.
