Met another woman on another forum, this forum for all types of marriage probs not just directly dealing with A. This woman story is H left for OW, woman tries to get H to come home and work it out but H refused, woman decides to move on with life, met someone new, even admits it was a rebound thing just needing to know she was still desirable (which we all understand). H finds out about new man in life and suddenly wants her back. Since she did love him she decided too.
Her husband is on the same forum as she, all she talks about is remorse for her A which we explained to her it was not a A that her H had left her for OW and to her it was over and she had moved on (several months into it) When we can get her to open up just a tad about her feelings her pain H just rips into her all over the site, he cuts her down and constantly blames her. Why she gave him another chance I dont know from what I see on the forum, but because I wouldnt of put up with it I am not going to say she shoulldnt.
We have started emailing each other so she can talk in privacy about her feelings. About how she feels is normal,
I would love to send her to this site, so she knows how others feel the same way and more people give her advice.
But in all honesty, I do not want the H to come here all he worry about is himslf and just lashes out at her, putting all the blame of his affair on her. This woman is desperatly need of friends.
I want to email her this address here so she has a private place to vent and get things figured out, and I know you guys are just what she needs. But I feel wrong asking her to come here but for right now not to tell her H that she is getting advice here.
I stress so much that everything has to be open and honest at a time like this so asking her to come here and keeping it a secret is against what I say, but really I do feel that she needs to.
Would it be wrong of me to do that? Even tho it is keeping a secret from her H?????
