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After The Affair (Book)? #1621972 03/28/06 05:13 PM
Joined: Dec 2005 Posts: 598 H healingbird OP Member
OP healingbird Member H Joined: Dec 2005 Posts: 598	My new IC recommended that I read After The Affair, by Janis A. Spring. From the reviews, it appears to deal with both sides (the BS and the WS). Has anyone read it? Good, bad, indifferent? I'm really loathe to read any more books on relationships, having gone through HN/HN, SAA, LB, The Five Love Languages, and a couple of other books. I think I've got a good handle on where I am, where I want to go, and what I can do to get there, as well as where MP is at right now. I'm tired of reading books on relationship issues while my lovely wife is not yet ready to actually work on our relationship. However, if there's any value to it, I may check it out, but would like some reviews from people here if any have read it. Thanks. Formerly known as brokenbird BH (Me) - 38 WW (Magpie) - 31 Married 2001 (Together 8 years) DS - 13 DD - 5 EA/PA - 9/05-12/05 D-Day - 11/05 Second separation. Working on me. If you remain in Me and My words remain in you, ask whatever you wish, and it will be given to you. John 15:7 (NIV)

Re: After The Affair (Book)? healingbird #1621973 03/28/06 05:51 PM
Joined: Jul 2004 Posts: 11,539 la la land aka land of fruits ... F faithful follower Member
faithful follower Member F Joined: Jul 2004 Posts: 11,539 la la land aka land of fruits ...	BB, IMHO this is the best book for a FWS to read unless you are a Christian and then I would recommend Torn Assunder by Dave Carder. After The Affair does a good job of describing how the A goes for both the BS and WS. Faith me: FWW/BS 52 H: FWH/BS 49 DS 30 DD 21 DS 15 OCDS 8

Re: After The Affair (Book)? faithful follower #1621974 03/28/06 06:02 PM
Joined: Dec 2005 Posts: 598 H healingbird OP Member
OP healingbird Member H Joined: Dec 2005 Posts: 598	Hi FF - Thanks for the response. MP and I are both Christian, and I've thought about looking at Torn Asunder. As I said above, MP isn't ready to talk relationship yet, so any books I pick up in the near future will be either for me directly or to try to better understand what she's going through. Alas, not much point in buying books for her that she's not willing to read - or better yet, apply. Formerly known as brokenbird BH (Me) - 38 WW (Magpie) - 31 Married 2001 (Together 8 years) DS - 13 DD - 5 EA/PA - 9/05-12/05 D-Day - 11/05 Second separation. Working on me. If you remain in Me and My words remain in you, ask whatever you wish, and it will be given to you. John 15:7 (NIV)

Re: After The Affair (Book)? healingbird #1621975 03/28/06 06:31 PM
Joined: Jul 2004 Posts: 11,539 la la land aka land of fruits ... F faithful follower Member
faithful follower Member F Joined: Jul 2004 Posts: 11,539 la la land aka land of fruits ...	BB, there is a book I just finished...I am not kidding it is a very short read by a FWW called Avoiding The Greener Grass Syndrome. I highly recommend you pick up that book. You may get MP to read it knowing a FWW wrote it. For yourself to understand her better, I recommend After The Affair. Faith me: FWW/BS 52 H: FWH/BS 49 DS 30 DD 21 DS 15 OCDS 8

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