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WH and I have been in what I thought was reconcilliation since the beginning of October 05. He had a 3month P/A with a co-worker. He left on Dday #1 for 5 weeks returning saying that he made a terrible mistake and would do anything he could to fix our relationship. He had ended the A.
I hit a major depression about 2 months ago, co-incidently (?) the time when his A started up again with the OW. WH left suddenly (like last time) yesterday saying our marriage was too broken to fix and that he couldn't give me what I needed or make me happy. Perhaps that might be to do with the fact that he's been giving what I need to the OW! In fact yesterday was almost a re-run of Dday #1, him coming out with a similar script. I don't love you but think I love the OW etc, etc.
I'm so confused and don't quite know how I'm going to get through this a 2nd time. Our 6yr old DS is devasted all over again.
Is it common for a WS to do this? I would appreciate your opinions as to whether you think this is fog talk again or an exit A. At this stage I can't consider a reconcilliation even if he wanted to again in time. Yet it's hard to let go of nearly 16 years togheter.
Please help.
Thankyou
Me BS 37
WH 37
DS 6 & DD 2
Together 16 years, married 8
DDay #1 08/28/05
P/A 3 mths. Co-worker(now resigned
He left,seperated 5 weeks
Returned 10/02/2005
DDay #2 03/28/06
Resumed A Jan 06
WH has left the marriage and agrees to D
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I just posted to you on the GQII board. I'm also posting it here for you.
BTW: You'll get a lot more "action" on the GQII board. More of the "Vets" monitor that one.
WW,
Like star*fish, I suspect that contact never actually broke off.
Our first order of business is to kill the A. Our best weapon? EXPOSURE!!!
Did you expose the first time this happened? If not we'll help you set up an exposure plan. But WHATEVER you do, DO NOT warn the WH & OW what you are planning to do. If you do you will find out that they will "spin" the exposure to minimize it's effects.
Reconsilliation is still possible! Do not doubt this. But our first order of business remains killing the A.
BTW: that "fog speak" that WH is spewing is straight from the WS handbook. Give it all the consideration that it is due: NONE.
Keep posting and we'll help you through this.
Stay Strong!
WTF
*** Warning *** Make sure brain is engaged before shifting mouth out of Neutral.
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