Seattle...I can't seem to figure out how to send you a PM.

GF - you can't send a PM. You have to post an e-mail addres that he can send to. If you feel uncomfortable posting your e-mail here, e-mail it to me at - e-mail address delted - and I will forward it on to SIS.

Regards,

BB

Ohh, ok. My email is no longer posted!

Thanks!

Okay Good Father, now edit your previous message to remove your e-mail address - I forwarded it on to SIS.

Regards,

BB

I've got my appt. with Steve Harley on Thursday!

I'm really looking forward to it!

GF - to save your valuable time with Steve, already have prepared an EN questionaire filled out by you and one filled out by you as if you are your wife, i.e., for her to the best of your knowledge.

Be as familiar with the MB concepts as you can be. Steve will quiz you to gauge your familiarity. <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/grin.gif" alt="" />

WAT
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Not "lost", not "saved", but doing very, very well. <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/pfft.gif" alt="" />

GF. You've got Email! Give me a call or send me a note. I got a LOT out of the conversations with SH. He helped me save some money too.

Good news related to custody! I interviewed for a new job yesterday. I wasn't sure how well things went, but they called me back for another interview because I'm one of the top three candidates.

Don't get me wrong, I love the job I have now, but unfortunately, it's a temporary contract position. The job that I'm interviewing for will provide me with more income and will be permanent, which are two things that will help my position a lot when it comes time for the court to decide custody.

So anyway, I just thought I'd share my good news with you all, since I concider you all friends now.

The job will help. But the court REALLY goes by who's been the primary caregiver unless the primary caregiver is found to have issues. My ex-wife makes 25% more money than me, that's not an issue, she just pays child support. The issue is who is the better parent.... emotionally. That will be decided by a parenting evaluation and the money will be funnelled from non-custodial parent to the custodial parent!

I left you an email on your GMAIL account. I would really like to speak with you if you're serious about keeping custody of your daughter.

I replied to you at 10!

Good news on the job front GF.

I didn't get your Email for some reason. I just checked my website. Can you try again??

Sent again!

GF,

What's the latest in your sitch?

Kinda in limbo right now. Waiting for the protection order to be over or canceled.

She has been good about letting me see our DD. I've actually been with her every day except last Friday...and today I won't have her.

It seems that we are pretty much back to square one. She wants us to be a happy group of people living together, with me as her backup incase her relationship with OM doesn't work out.

I've been on my "best behavior" because if I'm going to be successful in winning custody of DD, I'm going to need to be in the house.

I don't like this "in limbo" status, but I'm starting to feel better about the situation. I am able to concentrate now, and eat, so that's a good thing.

It still pains me a lot when she talks about other man, and if thier relationship is going to go anywhere. She wants to talk to me as a friend, but I don't think she realizes how much it hurts to be "replaced", then to have it brought up everyday and rubbed in your face.

She called me for advice on a computer problem...I know it doesn't sound like much, but OM is in IT, and some of her emails back and forth to him are in regards to computer issues..IT..etc. I wonder if this is a change that she is starting to think about me more?

Ok, never mind, I'm getting my hopes up and allowing thoughts of reconciliation in.

Why are you talking to her with the order in place?

You're taking a HUGE risk doing this, IMHO.

Perhaps you should be taking this "period" as a mini- Plan B. Go dark in malicious compliance with the order when she trys to communicate and let her get a taste of what it'll be like without you.

Others?

WAT

I agree, and if it weren't for DD, I would. But if I just "go dark" then it looks like I am having no interest in seeing DD, which would look REALLY BAD when it comes custody time.

The problem is when she calls, I don't know if it's going to be about DD or something else.

The officer was very clear when he served me with the PO, she can contact me, but under no circumstances (outside life threatening emergency) am I to contact her.

Well, I have been thinking a lot about everyone's advice here, and the advice of a good friend who says I should refuse to talk to WW until the PO is dropped.

Like I said earlier, I'm afraid it would look really bad if I "went dark" so I emailed my lawyer to see what she says is in my best interest. Right now I feel like telling WW that I will talk to make plans with/for DD, but no conversations beyond that until the PO is dropped.

We'll see what the lawyer says I guess.

She is in her own little fantasy world and is obvlivious. She filed a protection order against you AND wants to be friends. On what planet does THAT make sense.

I didn't get your reply to my work E-Mail, I'll check my yahoo account when I get home.