Okay, The divorce is in process filed by (me/BS) WH told the kids about the divorce and has moved out. At this point, Wh has made up his mind to move on with OW, and start a relationship with her. He'll come around to see the kids and now he acts so angry with me, at sometimes, like hes trying to be mad at me, I guess making it easier for him to move on. I havent been mean, or had any love busters with him. I over heard a conversation with OW and its funny he talks about me, of course she asks about me, and his responses to the things I say, he portrays to be rude,etc. like if I am being mean towards him and Im not. Could it really be affecting him the ( I give up attitutde I give him? ) Today he came over to see the baby, he took the kids to school, ( im having our 5 yr old son stay with him the wk, I feel he needs to spend time with him before we move out of state, and before WH starts work) He comes over and when he leaves he kisses me goodbye, trying to instigagte more between us, I did kiss him back , only natural I still love him. But what does this mean, just trying to be a cake eater? If I try could there still be something there?

I read one of his emails to a friend and I guess he plans on moving in with OW, I suppose once we leave and the kids dont see this. WHat are the statistics of their relationship succeeding?

just have too many ?'s

why did you file for D?

Did you do a good plan A and then planB before this?

WH said he wouldnt leave OW, he kept sneaking around with her, having phone sex, etc

i gave him 3 chances to end it and the third I filed

does anybody have insight?

Wh called me last night at 2 in the morning, yelling at me that why am I leaving messages to his "girlfriend". Which I havent! Im getting yelled at for nothing! Im not going to do anything to ruin what he has with her, itll eventually disolve on its own!

Someday,

I think the people on the board may need more background and info to help them respond to your questions. For example, did you do a Plan A as described in the info section here and in some posts? Did you ever try Plan B? Also, more facts about your marriage, how you found out, whether you exposed the affair, etc would also be helpful.

As far as your husband's crazy phone call at 2am, I would call him back today, preferably when you can just leave a voicemail message, and say in a very calm & confident manner the following: "Husband, I have not left any such messages for your girlfriend. Either she is lying to you, or another man's wife is calling her about having an inappropriate relationship with her husband. I guess you'll have to figure out which one it is. Take care."

Now, back to the original questions I listed above.... Also, there are some great threads on here as to what to do if you are a betrayed spouse.

are you saying that you are taking the kids and leaving ..

how much distance are you putting between him and children..
what is the plan for him to be in their lives..

how long the affair...

ARK

Someday, you're asking for comments on something you've explained very little about. Please use your total anonymity here and explain your situation completely.

To answer one of your questions, I've seen information that very, very few adulterous couples ever marry each other. Of those, only 2% remain married after 5 years and the number of those married after 10 years is statistically insignificant. Put colloquially, as a general rule, it ain't a’gonna work.