I LOVE this site!! This site and all of you--those whom have posted 4,000+ times, and those who have posted only 12 times--have helped me get through the worst three months of my life.

My relationship is not a traditional marriage like almost all of yours. But, to me, it was (and is) a marriage of our hearts and lives and I am a feeling, loving, hurting and struggling person who needs the same support that any of the rest of you need and get as you navigate this difficult path. I am following the principles here and I still hope my partner and I can eventually make it to recovery.

Without meaning to sound needy, unless you are homophobic or have religious convictions that preclude your supporting me and my relationship, I would LOVE some feedback from ANY of you. (I don't want responses to specifically tell me that you are not interested due to my relationship being same sex.)

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Thanks for listening.

Chaka,

There is a lady here named JustJ. She has been in your situation and she is posting to a man who's W has come out as a lesbian. She can help you more than I and perhaps others truely can. Do a quick search for her in the GQ II section.

Make a post to her requesting her help. She is a wonderful woman, and very knowledgable. You will find her most useful.

Whether or not people are homophobic, or their religious views clash with your particular orientation, the bigger problem is NOT truely understanding how things work in this culture. Hence advice might be useful, but it is hard to be empathetic and understand certain things.

Further being a guy, I have enough trouble understanding women, much less two of them. <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/laugh.gif" alt="" /> If you get my drift. I have indeed read your posts, and from my end of the telescope the one piece of advice would be to be far less emotional about this and not take every action or inaction and respond to it. She is in an another relationship and the term "fog" surely applies.

Look at the totality of her actions or lack of actions rather than wondering what one thing or another means. That will drive you crazy and it will not help you toward your objective. Further, I would strongly recommend that you not be financially dependent on her at this point.

Must go, but do call out JustJ.

JL

Hi Chaka, I posted to you on your main thread. I hope I can be of some help.