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Helping kids welcome new brothers and sisters
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I have stepchildren. We're having a baby. They have some problems -- person/people from their mother's side of the family have apparently given them the idea that a child of our marriage is a threat to them. That the baby will somehow "take" their father from them? We don't know which outlaw it was, but the kids are affected.

Anyone know how to overcome this kind of outside-promulgated sibling jealousy?
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All I can say it make it their baby. Make it clear to them that this is a gift from God for everyone. Pick out a few names and let them choose. When the baby is born make sure to spend extra time with the other kids too. I bought my son a present from the new baby and had it for him when I came home. He thought that was so neat!
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In many, probably most, cases, once the new baby arrives, children from a previous marriage are relegated to a distant second place in the father's life. Anyone who has been on this board for awhile has seen that happen over and over. It's not the baby's fault, of course, but it is no wonder the children are concerned - and making disrespectful statements like calling members of their family "outlaws" doesn't help matters.
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We of course don't call them "the outlaws" around the children.

I'm afraid we were cursed with a sense of humor, which vexes some people... Apologies if that offended.

We've no intention of the children being "relegated to second place". Our intention is to overcome paranoia and bitterness to build a better family.

Any productive ideas? Coachswife, thanks for the start!

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