Spouse found the LAS device in the car, but I don't think knows what it is yet... How do I get this from him? and what, if anything, do I tell him?

Play completely innocent, not a hint of knowing what in the world that thing is. If you play stupid, maybe he will believe it and leave it at the house. Maybe he'll think OW is tracking him.

So you think I should lie to my spouse? If my deceit is uncovered, wouldn't this sabatoge efforts to instill honesty (spouse ain't the most honest person to begin with, hence my doubts) if I don't find any evidence of A?

I'm half tempted to try taking it from where it has been placed, download it in the middle of the night, putting it back, and cutting my losses. The other half doesn't want to put it back.

And this all depends on spouse's not taking it to someone to figure out what it is before I can get my hands on it.

I can't believe I let LAS get found! STUPID!!!

Well yeah, if you can download it without incidence, yes do that. Whether you reinstall it, I guess what you find on it would be a big factor in determining that.

This person's mind is like a steel trap, and I don't think spouse is going to let this go if I can't come up with something convincing. I'd rather not lose my investment if possible. Any techies out there have a convincing argument as to what the little box might be, something I'd be likely to have (I'm more of a techno geek than spouse - which isn't saying much, but only familiar with the office related gadgets).

What is your story? Why do you have it on his car in the first place?

I'm going to have to be brief, as I don't want to be identifiable, KWIM?

Spouse recently caught in lies of commission and omission regarding timeframes (likes to say things just came up, when I know S was informed well before S decides to clue me in), with whom ("forgot" to mention co-ed activity - very blatently avoided direct questions), and internet activities. Suspicious. But these aren't 100% caught-in-the-act types of things (other than the internet activities). There is an equally strong possibility of simply avoiding conflict (because of history below) with nothing to really be suspicious of. (hopefully this is not the point to say "sure, and pigs fly").

Spouse has history of at least 1 EA, and at least 1 PA.

Will not engage in REAL conversation of why A's took place ("they weren't A's because..."). Will not soul search to find causes, nor better ways to get needs met in M. (If that don't make ya nervous, nothin will!) S thinks IC and MC is for crazy people.

I can't get past recent lies, I'm drained of the ability to trust my M is secure.

Why not put spyware on his computer?

Does that vehicle have Onstar? maybe pass it off as the GPS unit utilized for the Onstar built in system?

Or

Was the car purchased used. Maybe something left behind from the previous owner.

If he takes any interest with the device, a quick internet search is going to give the device away.

That is done. I got nothing concrete that an A is going on, but it looks like S is visiting some sites that make me suspicious as to intent.

If A is going on, I think the phone and the GPS will be the only way it will be caught.

I assumed the LAS device was in the engine, bumper, undercarriage. If in the seating area, I'm not sure what to tell ya.

S definitely knows unit was not there before. S probably has a guestimate as to how long it was there.

I doubt S will find it online, but it wouldn't be farfetched that S will take it to someone who could.

So I'm SOL...?

I sometimes drive S's car, that's why I'm trying to find some piece of equip that, if pressed, I can say I've lost.

I think if questioned it would be best to come clean (at least with that device).

Then send it to me! <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/wink.gif" alt="" />

I think I'll try to download the data, and if results are good, I'll be likely to admit to S what it is. If not...

Justkeeptrying, if I could just get past this insecurity, it would be yours! <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/smirk.gif" alt="" />

That was the best investment I made. I caught my wife in her infidelity by using the LAS now I don't need it anymore. I caught her within a week of purchasing it. Now I don't need it so if anyone is interested in a good deal on a used one let me know.
I put mine in the spare tire area of the trunk.

Humm, how good a deal? <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/grin.gif" alt="" />

If you need an excuse for having it say you were interested trying geocaching. It a GPS treasure hunt kind of thing. A friend of mine does it and loves it. It gives coordinates and clues kind of like a scavenger hunt. <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/cool.gif" alt="" />
Here is a website with more info:

www.geocaching.com

Didn't you go to lunch with a friend (cousin, co-worker, whatever) just the other day, and they lost some gadget? You don't know what it is, but "Mary" (or whoever) asked you if you find a black plastic thingy in your car...