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I got an interesting email from my oldest daughter today.
I haven't spoken with my STBXW in a while.
Daughter said STBXW was very upset yesterday. She confessed to both D's that she had been having an A with our dentist and that his W had been "told" about them via an anonymous tip. Darling Dentist dumped her.
Ain't that a kicker? It explains a lot, doesn't it?
Daughter says STBXW insists it started after we separated, but somehow, I have my doubts.
You know, I'm not as upset as I thought I'd be. A whole lot of things are starting to make sense...
Low
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it's really mostly a kicker for the kids
what a bunch of adult garbage for these kids to be burdoned with......
you should both be upset over how this impacts them...
don't ya think low.......
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get a new dentist <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/wink.gif" alt="" />
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Wow, I am sorry for everyone involved LO.
Even if it was after your separated (which I agree with you, very doubtful) what about the married dentist?
It still make her the OW and this is just as bad as cheating on your spouse. She knew OM was married and had an affair with him.
I guess this may explain why things ended for you like they did. Good luck to you, these things are not easy.
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Wow Low...
I would bet the EA started before she left....and would explain ALOT of her behaviors, but because it was an EA, a friendship, she doesn't believe it was an affair before she left.......
I am sorry about this...
Does this change anything?
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It was SOOO deceitful...not surprising, I know...to have you thinking that it was "ALL ABOUT YOU"...Yuck....
Double Yuck..to do to another person..the same that was done to you...
and her being such a "church woman"..Third Yuck...
YUCK..YUCK..YUCK....
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I made it happen..a joyful life..filled with peace, contentment, happiness and fabulocity.
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Low,
I am sorry to hear that for everyone involved and I hope it gives you some answers and some peace in your heart.
It's also just shocking and sad that someone who understands the pain of an A would start one up herself.
It's nice that your daughter seemed to ask whether it started after you two separated, because it shows your daughter's concern for you & the family. However, even if that is true, the dentist was/is M'd. I'm not a parent, but I would talk to my daughter about that and try to explain why that is not a good thing and how much pain it causes for everyone involved.
Best of luck to you LowOrbit.
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I'm sure they're quite upset about it, ark...I'll comfort them as best as I can. Oldest will likely come to SA to live with me this summer...winter...whatever it's gonna be.
Both of the kids are essentially adults...young women with good heads on their shoulders. Yes, this sucks for all of us.
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get a new dentist <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/wink.gif" alt="" /> Working on that...right after a new apartment, new car, etc... Weird, I almost feel a giddy sense of vindication. I'm not hurt anymore. I'm not angry (well, maybe a little). I do have a sense of what she's going through...but she's not going to be able to count on me to help her through it. I hope she learns her lesson and has a good life. I'm looking forward to living mine. Low
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Does this change anything? Actually, dorry...it changes nothing other than I can rest a little easier knowing our demise wasn't entirely my fault.
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I'm sorry on the one hand that things turned out this way. On the other I'm glad that you now understand what happened.
I hope you have a great life! You have wroked hard on yourself.
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Well, I'm sorry to hear it LO. But it sure does explain a lot.
Say, wasn't there strong suspicion about an A she may have had years ago on some trip?
That that ever get confrimed? If so, that might even explain the rest...
With prayers,
"Never forget that your pain means nothing to a WS." ~Mulan
"An ethical man knows it is wrong to cheat on his wife. A moral man will not actually do it." ~ Ducky
WS: They are who they are.
When an eel lunges out
And it bites off your snout
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get a new dentist <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/wink.gif" alt="" /> I know what happened... Instead of dialing that 800 number, she musta punched 1-800-aff airee! <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/eek.gif" alt="" /> -ol' 2long
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Low,
Its a kicker alright.
""I haven't spoken with my STBXW in a while.""
Might she be contacting you soon? For any # of reasons?
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Well Low, she's got some chit to go through now, just like you did, like I did, like we all do, did, will.
I'm glad of your attitude "I've got a great life ahead of me"
Yes, you do!
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get a new dentist <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/wink.gif" alt="" /> Working on that...right after a new apartment, new car, etc... Weird, I almost feel a giddy sense of vindication. I'm not hurt anymore. I'm not angry (well, maybe a little). I do have a sense of what she's going through...but she's not going to be able to count on me to help her through it. I hope she learns her lesson and has a good life. I'm looking forward to living mine. Low Low I apologize for my giddy glibness ... my only excuse is the cold medication I slugged down earlier today .... I'll have you know I typed out a MUCH WORSE response ... then thought better of it ... :hint: the word dental drill was mentioned <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/blush.gif" alt="" /> pass the Nyquil mea culpa punna
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Strange mix of emotions, isn't it.
Discovering your S (or STBXS) has been involved in an affair is so shocking, on one hand......
And on the other......
Such a relief to know you WEREN'T imagining things, ALL at fault for the past, and you're not crazy.
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Wow Low,
I feel sorry for your D's. I feel sorrier for your STBXW, because she may well be the reason two families fail. I recall when you came here and how hard you worked, and now the truth is revealed. I guess the good news is you can go into the future knowing you gave it your best shot, and that with her A going on, and you are probably right before you two split, you really had NO CHANCE of making it work.
Sorry to hear this, but I am glad you know understand the real situation.
God Bless,
JL
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