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(((Hurting)))
I think you done good!
Me-41 BS (FWS) DH-41 WS (FBS) 2DD's- 10 and 12 Married 15 years Separated for 2 years after my A Reconciled for 1 year before his A D-day for his A 8/23/05 WH moved out 9/16/05 Divorce final 1/23/07 Affair ended or month or so later My Story
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Jean,
thanks, then why don't I feel better about it?
I know its the right thing and the consequences of his own actions but I never wanted to go this far...... Damn it I still love him for some insane reason......
Hurting
BS (Me)- 47 WH - 46
Married- 24 yrs
3 children 15,19,22
2 grandsons
D-Day- June17, 2005 while I was 1400 miles away
WH living with OW since July 05
WH filed divorce papers Dec. 22, 05
Divorced granted June 28, 06
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Healing, you love your husband. This stranger has to deal with all that comes his way....
I believe only you know what is the best course of action. You do what you think is right.
And, please have comfort in ~~
You are not alone !!!
Sending my very best wishes, car
Me - BS 55
WH/FWH 50
OW 30
Much evidence says that my H was/is
deeply involved in a very long term PA
Prolly will never know much more than that
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Carnation,
Your right I do love my husband , the man i fell in love with. This person who is walking around in his body is not him at all. I am beginning to suspect that my husband is gone and will never come back.
I feel at this time I am doing the right thing. This stranger need to see that he can no walk on me anymore nor will I accept any more disrespect from him. I am tired and weary of all of this and just want some peace. If it means he must pay by loosing all that was once dear to him then so be it. This is not going to be pretty at all as I and my attorney are going to force him to see the rality of this situation. I know its going to make him turn from me even more but I won't back down just to keep him from hateing me. I didn't ask for this and I am not afraid anymore, I have let the fear of making him angry rule me these last nine months and I am done with it.
So whatever has to be done to protect myself and DS will be dne. He gets angry he gets angry. I can't stop it or change it. This is the way it is. Reality has to been seen by all involved and for now I am feeling the reality of this, his turn is coming.
Hurting
BS (Me)- 47 WH - 46
Married- 24 yrs
3 children 15,19,22
2 grandsons
D-Day- June17, 2005 while I was 1400 miles away
WH living with OW since July 05
WH filed divorce papers Dec. 22, 05
Divorced granted June 28, 06
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This is not going to be pretty at all as I and my attorney are going to force him to see the rality of this situation. I know its going to make him turn from me even more but I won't back down just to keep him from hateing me. Don't worry about what he sees or doesn't see. Don't worry about forcing him to see reality, or whether or not he hates you. Focus on what you need to do. Let the chips fall where they may. As Don Corleone said, "Business is business."
"Virtue -- even attempted virtue -- brings light; indulgence brings fog." -- C.S. Lewis
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A.M.
Your right business is business......
All things happen for a reason
and someday we will know the reason for it... When God says the time is right.
Hurting
BS (Me)- 47 WH - 46
Married- 24 yrs
3 children 15,19,22
2 grandsons
D-Day- June17, 2005 while I was 1400 miles away
WH living with OW since July 05
WH filed divorce papers Dec. 22, 05
Divorced granted June 28, 06
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