I and my wife have been married for 2 and half years. We got married after my first daughter was born. We were kind of thrown together and I was trying to do the right thing with marring her because I that that is what you do. I wanted my kids to be born with married parents, boy was I wrong. Any who, we got married and we had another daughter. My wife would often tell me that I was nothing to her and that I didn't do anything, even though she didn't work and I paid all of the bills. I would work all day and come home to a dirty house. She then would go out with her friends and hang out until like 3 or 4 in the morning. Now I have to be at work at 6 in the am. Now there were several times that I would have to call her friends until I got her to get her to wake up to come home so that I can go to work. Only to come home and she is gone again. She was very emotionally abusive. I sound weak saying that but it was true. This caused me to go and cheat on her, yes I did that. But I needed to be happy as well. Well she found out and had a fit, saying how bad I was and that I didn't love her and I didn't respect her. I told her that it wasn't like that. She even messed around with one of her friends during this time. To fast forward, the emotional abuse turned to physical abuse, I would take it. I would never strike her back, but just take it. My mom doesn't like the her because of a number of reason, and I asked my mom to not judge her for what she has done to me, but judge her for herself. My mom doesn't like her because she doesn't respect my mom's house. For example, she would call my mom after she and I got into it and call and curse my mom, for nothing. She blames my mom for the problems that’s she and I have. The most recent event: My brother just bought a house and asked me to go and furniture shop with him and my mom and aunt. Right now, my wife work every day from 9 to 9 6 days a week. I leave for work in the am and pick them up from day care and on the weekends I have them all day and night, while she works or goes out. The kids are always with me. Well we got to my mom's house around like 11:00pm and I told her that I would be home around 9. Well my cell phone died so I couldn't call her to tell her that I would be late. Well when I was taking the kids out of my brother's truck putting them in the car to come home, she called. I was taking my daughter to the car, and my brother said, hey man, can you answer this dayum phone for this girl. Now again, she has called my mom house several times and disrespected them. Like I told her, respect given is respect received with my family. Well I jump on the phone and she immediately goes, what the ****** is his problem? I said well you know that story. I apologized for being late and told her I was on my way home. She continued to want to argue about my brother, so I hung up the phone. She called right back and my mom answered the phone and said he was leaving and hung up. I left after that, but apparently she kept calling. I stopped to get gas, and then I called her. While the phone was ringing, my mom beeped in. She told me that she had cursed her again, and that she no longer wanted her to call her house. If she couldn't get me on my cell phone then oh well. She said that she called her a blk "b" and asked if she was "F*%*&^" me. That ked to my mom in so many words, if she was it was none of her business. My mom was pissed. Well I get home and immediately called her to the carpet. Her mom has gotten in my face and called me everything in the book, but I never called her mom out of her name, never. Never have I called her mom's house and dissected her mom's house. That is not how I was raised. Well I told her that I was upset at what she did and that I didn't want to hear anything and that I didn't want to talk to her. Now this was on the 1st and I needed to go and pay the rent before the next morning to avoid the late fees. Again she is working, but doesn't pay ANY bills except for her dr. pepper and cigs. Now we have two children both in diapers. I would say in their life time, she has maybe bought about 10 packs of diapers. She then runs out side and now wants to argue. She calls me the "n" words, tells me she hates me, and tells me that she will kill me or have someone to do it. I shrug it off and get in the car to go and pay the rent. I didn't take any of it to heart except for the "N" word. This wasn't the first time that she called me that, plus out of angry without feeling. BTW - my wife is white, I am blk. Well I get back home and she is gone with the kids. Now when we get into arguments, she does take the kids and run. One time she was gone for 3 days. I finally get a chance to talk to her yesterday online, because she never returned my calls and she tells me that she is going to get the girls checked out because she said my mom is "f)(&)(" me. Which again, I recalled what she said. I then asked her why she called me the "N" word, and wanted to kill me. She had no answer. But now she has them. I have no idea where and she will not let me see them. I have never harmed them in anyway. I have scarified allot for them, and her. What do I do now? I am getting a lawyer to help me get them. I don't want to take them from her, however I want to make sure they have what they need as I have done since their existence. She has one daughter that her mom cares for because he is unable to.

Also the issue of calling my mother a blk b(^(* and me the "N" word are very confusing as well.