mruggi, here is a word of encouragement..don't despair, hope is NOT lost. Don't listen to that kind of talk from your Wayward Wife, they all say that, but do you know what? In many or most cases this sort of situation turns around.
Have you read the great articles on the MB website? If so, you know about Plan A, Exposure, the lovebank, emotional needs, how to avoid lovebusters, and a dozen other vital concepts. Can I suggest you read or re-read, in addition to continuing to post?
There are many stories like that of sadtimes just above. In my case we were near the end 6 months ago. Then I exposed. Even closer to divorce 5 months ago, but are now on the road to recovery. It can turn around!
Your best approach is to read, learn, discuss here, and do the right things. No guarantees, but that will definitely improve your chances.
worthatry is very experienced. I'm just a newbie, but I will be here, and others will join. You can expect many supporters, just keep posting. Good luck, and God Bless.
Edited to add: Okay I've just read your other threads. You've had (and have) a ton of great helpers there! Can I make a couple of other suggestions? First, stay on a thread so your helpers can find you easily. Bookmarks are by thread, so when you start a new thread your posters have to find you again. You don't want to lose such great helpers.
Can you try to be more verbose when you post? So that they can really understand your situation. They really have no other motive than to try to help you. And they will. Go into full-blown interactive mode, and work with them.