Hello everyone,
I would like to know if anyone else has faced this situation. My husband has continuely (story never changes) said that after the initial first time he was with her, the only reason he continued seeing the OW,was because she told him she was pregnant. She supposedly had an abortion in the 5th month. He did continue the affair for 2 years,because she threatened to tell me.

My question is, has anyone faced this, and how did you handle it? I keep coming up with reasons, which he flatly denies, he says he hated it, hated her, and if nothing else, is so thankful that he doesn't have to see/talk/have sex with her ever again. ( I do believe that part, there has been no contact at all from either party)

Thanks,
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Yes, too many of us have dealt with stupid OPs and Ws'. <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/eek.gif" alt="" /> <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/mad.gif" alt="" />

In my case the OW decided she was some sort of rabbit and claimed prego 3x in 2 years. Even accused me of causing her miscarry....didn't matter that she was about 45 at the time.
But this OW was soo smart she just knew she was carrying a girl at about 6 weeks. LOL!!! Why? Becase the WS always wanted a girl and we have 1 son. <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/rolleyes.gif" alt="" />

Btw, all that and more drama kept the Ws and OW together for 3 years.

What else would you like to know. Interested in knowing how we survived?

Btw, what he told you isn't the truth, he's babbling but he believes it. <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/eek.gif" alt="" /> <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/mad.gif" alt="" />

L.

Aaah yes, he hated her so much...that he just couldn't help taking off his clothes and jumping in the sack?

Last time I checked, hatred and disgust aren't exactly high on the "ways to improve erectile function" list.

What he is telling you isn't the truth.

If a WS can mentally "re-write" the history of their marriage, I don't see why they can't do the same regarding the history of their affair.

My situatation was no where near as bad as yours. But I did notice that when the fog cleared, my H couldn't understand what it was that he ever saw in the OW.

Maybe that's from strengthening the bond within the marriage. Maybe it's just that he could see her clearly for the first time, and really didn't like what he saw.

I find it difficult to believe your husband's story though....that he was more or less 'held hostage' for two whole years. <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/rolleyes.gif" alt="" />

It could be that he wants to spare your feelings, or maybe that he truly can't identify with his former thought-process. But whatever the reasons....it doesn't sound radically honest to me.