Can someone tell me if this is part of *fog* ???

This past weekend, my husband and I went out for a few drinks. I saw my best friend at the bar, and also her sister, who is the one that revealed my husbands affair in the first place.

The *other woman* was at the bar as well, but did not speak to my husband. (which I find is VERY strange seeing as how they were supposedly real GOOD pool partners) However, my best friends sister pointed her out to me, as I did not know what she looked like.

My husband has been on a rampage ever since then, calling my best friend and telling her that she is no longer welcome in OUR home. Telling her to shut her mouth. And she didn't do anything but point to this chic!

Now he is threatening my best friends sister (who he works with) that he is going to call their house and talk to her husband.

He is just livid that I know what she REALLY looks like now, I know thats what his problem is. But, is this typical for wayward spouses to point blame on everyone else and try and cause problems for other people?

I dont really think he is *all* there anymore ever since he got caught with this other woman. I dont know what to do, what to say or just sit here and be quiet.

He is in self destruct, I know that already. Any friendships that I had is now destroyed because of him, what else can go wrong?

Any opinions would be greatly appreciated.

I can't say if it's 'typical' or not, but it's definitely in the cheater's playbook.

Absolutely! My FWS would constantly make me feel sorry for bringing anything up after D-Day. And she would always fight about anything and everything. Come to find out she was still talking to him. After that was exposed and the NC had begun she continued acting like this to a certain degree. Why? because she had been lying about what actually happened regarding the A.
It could be part of the fog, but you should try to maintain NC. That means even seeing the OW in passing by. If you know she is going to be at a certain bar, it is in the best interest of you and your husband (if you wanting your M to recover) to find another place to go to.
Just my two pennies.

See, this is what I am thinking. I think he is still talking to her, because he gets so easily angered by anything that has to do with this girl. I cant bring up anything about her because he goes nuts.

Being the FWS, he is still talking to her or is still trying to hide something. Everytime my BS brought anything up that had to with the A (as he mentioned above) I would turn it all on him and make him feel guilty for even bringing it up. Now, I have no problem talking about it and am calm when talking about it, b/c I know in order for him to move forward so we can start our recovery phase he needs questions answered and details to be given.

The NC is really what it says, NO CONTACT, not even a passing by, no phone call, NOTHNG!! When you have fallen weak to that person it is more likely that you will become weak again. Anytime I would get anything from the OM, I would forward it to my husband or tell him when I truely did the NC. And now, I have had NC for over 7 months.

Your WH needs to become an open book to you, you need to know his every move 24/7. I am an open book to my H and even tell him when I pee throughout the day! I know he love that!!