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Just saw H's new place. It's like a country club, with amenities the same. Why would he ever want to come back here?
Once the kids see the resort like amenties, they'll never want to come home!
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Because you are there and his life is there.
Divorced: "Never shelter anyone from the realities of their decisions": Noodle
You believe easily what you hope for ernestly
Infidelity does not kill marriages, the lying does
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i gotta good one for ya too....long story short...my X wife had an affair with married guy...both "rushed" through the divorces so fast my head spun....they just recently moved into almost a million dollar home near me...all new furniture...new cars...trips to hawaii...etc...
i live in a modest apt..still recovering from affair/divorce...although its much easier now....this has been going on for over 2 1/2 yrs but divorce has only been final for about 7 months...they got married less than month after D finalized.....
i have some JEALOUSY and ENVY issues...you betcha!!! but im really working through them....
especially when i see my X......
shes put on ALOT of weight....looks haggered....pissed off all the time....her mom...my XMIL..is a witch...i hope you get the picture....
i can go on and on....but let me tell you this....they are in debt up to their eyes....my gretaest revenge....living well and being happy!!!
in hindsight....I WOULDNT TRADE A THING THAT HAS HAPPENED!!! "best worst thing" that has ever happened to me!!!
all i can tell you....HANG IN THERE...you aint making the payments!!!! <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/smile.gif" alt="" />
"If there are no stupid questions, then what kind of questions do stupid people ask?" (Chris Rock)
"Its better to die standing, than live a lifetime on your knees" (Pancho Villa)
"We just wanna be free to ride our machines and not get hassled by the Man!" (Easy Rider)
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oh yeah..dont worry about your kids.....mine look forward to seeing me every week...their mom lives in a mansion..i live in a 2 bedroom apt....i have a teenage daughter 16 and 12 yr old son...THEY have to share a room right now!!!
i NEVER have a problem.....houses are stucco and wood...a house dosnt make a home..(i know, cliche)
but its the QUALITY of the time you spend....just keep being the parent....the house wont matter....
it dosent in my case!!
"If there are no stupid questions, then what kind of questions do stupid people ask?" (Chris Rock)
"Its better to die standing, than live a lifetime on your knees" (Pancho Villa)
"We just wanna be free to ride our machines and not get hassled by the Man!" (Easy Rider)
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It's true, the house doesn't dictate the love which abides within.
My DD's dad is far more well off than I, and he even has a brand new baby girl to add to the attraction...but she wants to be with me. She wants to be with her dad too, but she's at home when she is home with me.
You are putting the focus on him again...STOP IT!
You start focusing on yourself and everything which is beautiful about you. You expand on those, you create attraction.
Get the damn focus off of him and his leaving.
Get to working your plan. It is your best bet, and the best possible thing you can do right now. Trust me.
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