I've got the power

Hey saenz,

Just wanted to give you a shout out over here on your thread. Glad to see you're having a good day <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/smile.gif" alt="" />.

--CO

thank you kindly

well she just emailed me and shes finally boxing her stuff up at my house thank good even though i was hoping maybe she wanted to work on it but guess not either way i get to move on w/ or w/ out her..

yeah 4 me.

saenz,
You'll be fine either way. Keep your chin up and stay strong!! You have all of us here at MB with you every step of the way!

--CO

co
you say that but you dont mean it. i'm all alone w/ no one
whoas me, whoas me...

ah oh well im getting some much needed me time..

Yes I do mean it. You CAN make it. You are not the first person to be where you are. Take sturg's advice. He's been down your road. Look at him now. He's come a long way and is happy with his life and himself. I know it's hard. It won't be easy either way, whether she stays or she goes. Either one, you WILL make it. I know by talking w/u you are heartbroken, but you are a VERY strong person. You'll be amazed at how strong you are when you are "thrown" into a situation like this.

As I said, I am here for you every step of the way and so is everyone else on here. Just give us a post when you need us.

--CO

CO,

Excellent advice girl! You gonna take it?! <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/grin.gif" alt="" />

KJ

KJ,

I'm only good at giving advice, not following it <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/grin.gif" alt="" />. Just kidding. I am really hanging in there and trying <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/smile.gif" alt="" />. I read the post you wrote on my thread. Thanks for posting. That was awfully nice of KiwiJ to refer you to my thread <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/smile.gif" alt="" />. I will post back to it when I get more time.

Still hanging in there saenz??

--CO

my W was the OW in a previous relationship before ours of course the maried guy ended the relationship w/ my W inorder to save his marriage and of course he never told his wife. should that of been a warning sign to me. what is the boards opinion?

Yes, that should have been a warning sign to you. I have a real problem with OW and OM. They disgust me....sorry!! I have no respect for them.

I updated my day on my thread. I hope your day has gotten better.

--CO

yeah i know i was in a state of mourning when we meet and that stuff didn't seem to matter but now in retrospect.

not to mention this morning i realized why we started to shop at publix instead of our regular place cause thats where the OM worked. now everytime i open the freezer i see a publix sticker and it pisses me off.

que bueno compa!!

when you look at that sticker....instead of getting pissed...look at it as a reminder of "game on" and keep your focus....

tough to do, but it just takes alittle self discipline....

dude, cheaters are a different breed....they can lie to everyone, but when they look at themselves in the mirror, they see the truth....

from reading your post about some of your W history....ill go back to my past posts bout self esteem....

think about it....your W has serious self esteem issues...unless she takes some seriuos work, NOTHING you do is going to change her...this A, is all hers...she owns it...

now.....STOP beating yourself up!!

sturg
your right about her self esteem shes awlays had a low one.

i cant seem to gether out of my head today im dying to call her. and i dont know why.

dont call her....DO NOT manufacture a reason....

call a buddy, your mom, anything......

theres no point to it.....look at it as a mile stone in self discipline, you will overcome a urge, then as you do it more and more, it becomes easier....

another thing...i stopped answering my phone when my X would call....always let it go to VM....got to the point that even hearing her voice would tense me up...

it just takes time...

I can identify with that feeling.

Remember Saenz, that chances are you'll feel WORSE after speaking to her. Aliens have this super duper ego killing ray that sucks all human positive emotions out of us.



Heck...call Stugis....apparently he's a good lookin' guy!

LOL!

Really, tho...that's what WE'RE here for.

Buddy, you're doing very well where you are. Really. I know it smarts like the devil, but you're doing good. I was such a mess after ddays that I thought I'd quit breathing.

Now....about your plan.....how can we help you stick to your plan? Cos, dude! Lemme tell you a good plan is the ULTIMATE for protecting YOU against all this MM/WW stuff. A good plan is your direction thru this fog spewing WW junk.

No matter what happens between you and your wife, your plan is your saving grace. Period. I'm livin' proof.

You're a good man, S. Worthy. You can do this....and we're here to buttress you up (as opposed to buttering you up) when you need it.

(shout out to Sturgis - my Wookie is a cop too, so thought I'd say hello to you)

- Kimmy

sturg
whats up mi amigo how are things are your end today did you read what deal said bout ya i see your head getting big again.

deal
thanks for those words and strug is a good man i agree.

just sittin here....burnin a CD...listening to music....fillin out paperwork for a condo im buying in mexico and realizing...my life is pretty da*n fine!!!

sooo....the moral to my story is.....dont get discouraged....right now everything is blurry and nothing makes sense, but YOU will get to the point when you are strong enough to step back and see that your life is OK...

just keep two things in mind and keep your priorities in order....

1... save your M, and come through this better than you were

2... if you end your M, do everything to protect yourself financially and keep your kids a PRIORITY....

3... STOP worrying about W at this point....she a grown up and she is responsible for her own decisions!! whether the match yours or not...thats beyond your control..

ok...i know...that was three things....i said i was pretty...not smart!!! <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/grin.gif" alt="" />

dealan...

""Wookie"".....whos that???

oh yeah bro...

""Heck...call Stugis....apparently he's a good lookin' guy!""


heres my email...drop me a line sometime, if you ever need to scream or rant...but DONT call your W...ill kick ya down a phone number...

facedownincabo40@yahoo.com ..just dont get "freaky" on me!!