Yeah... THANKS for that! <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/laugh.gif" alt="" />

Off for the drive home. I'll pick this back up later tonight.

And Pepper...

...thanks


FN

FN...i saw your thread earlier today and wanted to respond but didn't have time until now. OMgosh....i so needed to hear you today!!!!

I am soooooo with you. This has been a week for me...i am right with you brother!!!!

You know something my best friend told me one time...God gave us our emotions...and he wouldn't have given us anger if he NEVER wanted us to get angry.

He already knows our hurt and our suffering...he is suffering with us. Remember this also....(as i am reminding myself right now...) It is ALWAYS God's will for your marriage to work! It will never be HIS will for her and the OM to be together....

If you are hurting and angry because of your w's actions...think how much more HURT God is...He loves your wife more than you do and wants your M to work more than you do.

so when i get angry and trust me...OH trust me...how angry i have been this week!!! (trying to find a ball bat at times angry...hey...i'm from the south....gimme a break!)i try to remember that. Hold on to Romans 8:28...

and know....your not alone....

sure helped me to know that someone else is feeling the way i do...i hate that you are...but comforting to know we're not alone!

and for the record...the ball bat would've went in the wall...not his head...hehe!

jaysmom

The day my H announced that he was leaving he told me by phone. As I was on my way to work.
And he said
"I have to believe God intended for me to be with OW, otherwise he would not have brought her into my life!"

You can just imagine how many times I cried myself to sleep wondering WHY God would choose to bring someone new into his life, and leave me all alone. Why would God choose for him to be happy with a new woman, while I was lonely, and sad.
Of course in my logical mind I KNEW that what he was saying was bull crap, but still...in the back of my mind...I questioned my self, and occasionally questioned my faith. But I decided to hang in there. Kept going to church, reading the word each day (even if I could only read 1 small passage) and eventually I started to experience small moments of simple peace. Times when I would be going about my normal day, and suddenly a peace would wash over me and instantly I would understand the meaning of the "Peace that passes all understanding".

It turns out that God did not bring OW into WxH's life. They were only happy together for "a season". That was it. Sin for a season.

anytime

don't forget

you can yell at me or at God ... but God can hear you from the inside ... and I can only hope to hear you from the outside

Peace

Pep

Yes, David. A few thousand years ago. Read what he had to say to God here... LINK

He is your Father FN, he wants to know about your pain too.

I know he does, thanks again everyone.

Ya know, it's all I can do to keep from puting fists through walls anymore. I really need to get back into the gym and spar and get my clock cleaned a couple times to knock the cob webs out and get some pent up frustration loose.

I tell ya, I've never had my faith shaken so much as I have over the past couple of days. This is marriage number tow, the first one left because I became a Christian. She also had an A while stationed in Oman.

We were never stationed together and were only parried for two years, plus we were young so while it shook me, it didn't have quite the effect this one's had.

I see her, once a virgin bride, stout and strong in her faith, now soiled and seemingly lost. She's had a great life, a testimony that's made me envious. She was saved early, grew up in a Christian home and has always loved the Lord and gone to church. Now?

I had read JaysMom's and Intention's posts and then laid on the floor and repented, but all I could do was pray for her. Such a beautiful spirit, now questioning her own salvation.

And only last night I was telling God how much I resented and hated her <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/frown.gif" alt="" />


FN

Hang in there FN. You are being tested, but you will never be tested beyond what you can bear. Here's another verse for you LINK