|
|
Joined: Sep 2001
Posts: 5,906
Member
|
|
Member
Joined: Sep 2001
Posts: 5,906 |
Dear WW,
I write to you today with sorrow, but also with a sense of peace and hope for my own future.
I love you to no end, and my commitment to you and our marriage was unending. You are an endless source of joy, and I admire the goals you have set for yourself and that you have been able to accomplish. You are a very bubbly and exciting woman with a love for life that you spread to all you meet.
I regret that we find ourselves in this place that is lonely and confusing for both of us. Until you left I did not understand how truly miserable you were. I did not realize how my depression, unhappiness, and resentment affected our marriage. I was lost and did not know how to change. I did not understand how to properly display the love that ran so deep, to the very core of my being, to you. I repeated the mistakes of my mother, and showed you love the way I was taught to show it, by providing. I didn’t understand what your needs truly were, and how I could meet those needs in order to allow our marriage to flourish.
I have done much introspection over the last two months and believe I have found the tools we need to make a marriage in which we are joyful, loving and supportive. I have made many changes in my life over the last months. Some of these you have noticed, some you have not. Some you may never know. I must continue with my changes and have demonstrated to myself that it’s possible and they are permanent. I still have much work to do, but with every success I have, my hope for MY future brightens and my confidence in my ability to make positive changes is bolstered. My hope is that I will be able to share this bright new future with you.
As my hope for my future increases, so does my sorrow over how easily I have been cast aside by you. I find my love for you dying. In order to preserve the love I still have for you and to stop my bitterness from overwhelming me, I must remove you from my daily life. I cannot visit with you, speak with you on the phone, email, or correspond via mail. I must also give myself a fresh start in a happy, positive environment. This is not a punishment. This is a safeguard of my love so that if there should come a time when we can both commit to working on rebuilding on marriage, there is still love and hope left with which to do that.
If you must contact me regarding financial or legal matters, you may do this through your mom. I expect our current financial arrangements to stay the same.
WW, I have the greatest of confidence that we could build a wonderful marriage if we both committed to making it happen. I have learned so much these last few months and would like nothing better than to share it with you. Should there come a time when you feel you could commit wholly to trying to build a new foundation with me, it is something that I would like to discuss with you. For me a commitment toward working for a reconciliation would entail an agreement for you to break all contact, even professionally, with OM, an agreement to marriage counseling for at least six months, and a realistic plan of how we would actually reconcile if the counseling were to show us that path. By realistic, I mean the logistics of what city we are to live in, my education, etc. My hope is that you will think hard on this and choose this commitment. If you do I would welcome a discussion with you about it. Until then, I ask that you respect my wish for no contact with you.
We were best friends once. I cannot imagine who I would rather spend my life with than my best friend.
I Have Always Loved You,
TM
|
|
|
|
|
Joined: May 2004
Posts: 1,892
Member
|
|
Member
Joined: May 2004
Posts: 1,892 |
Ark,
I have the deepest regard for your advice Ark......here comes the BUT.....I think that the proper Plan B letter should be 3-4 sentences long. My reasons are that if a proper Plan A was done those sentiments should have been repeated ad nauseum and in dealing with a WS( mine in particular)their attention span lasts 45 to 60 seconds and they won't remember more than the basics.
I love you. I won't share you. I may be back when you share the same sentiments.Don't write,call, email or talk to me until then.
Just my opinion(sound like Lemon)
Divorced:
"Never shelter anyone from the realities of their decisions": Noodle
You believe easily what you hope for ernestly
Infidelity does not kill marriages, the lying does
|
|
|
|
|
Joined: Sep 2001
Posts: 5,906
Member
|
|
Member
Joined: Sep 2001
Posts: 5,906 |
Cy...
here's the deal...
I found this on the old boards...
oh don't get me started on how I miss the old board....
but there it was sitting there waiting for me to find it again..
now I agree it is way long...but this one is written to a girl...
girls will read a little more than than the boys...
for minute cy..I thought you were telling me you won't share me....
bless your pea picken heart....
so I agree shorter is better...
but this is a good letter...
and should not be lost to the old boards...
ARK
|
|
|
|
|
Joined: May 2004
Posts: 1,892
Member
|
|
Member
Joined: May 2004
Posts: 1,892 |
Ark, You mean there is still a chance for us??? <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/rolleyes.gif" alt="" />
Divorced:
"Never shelter anyone from the realities of their decisions": Noodle
You believe easily what you hope for ernestly
Infidelity does not kill marriages, the lying does
|
|
|
|
|
Joined: Sep 2001
Posts: 5,906
Member
|
|
Member
Joined: Sep 2001
Posts: 5,906 |
not if you roll your eyes at me.... <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/laugh.gif" alt="" /> <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/laugh.gif" alt="" /> I'm serious...I'm such a ditz...I'm reading your post... and I get to the line... I love you, I won't share you... I was like wow...I never knew!!!!! <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/smile.gif" alt="" /> ARK
|
|
|
|
|
Joined: May 2004
Posts: 1,892
Member
|
|
Member
Joined: May 2004
Posts: 1,892 |
ark,
Rolling eyes always worked for Groucho!!!!!!!!!!!
Divorced:
"Never shelter anyone from the realities of their decisions": Noodle
You believe easily what you hope for ernestly
Infidelity does not kill marriages, the lying does
|
|
|
|
|
Joined: Apr 2001
Posts: 92,985 Likes: 1
Member
|
|
Member
Joined: Apr 2001
Posts: 92,985 Likes: 1 |
hey! how come he is never that nice to me???? <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/pfft.gif" alt="" />
"It is not the critic who counts; not the man who points out how the strong man stumbles, or where the doer of deeds could have done them better. The credit belongs to the man who is actually in the arena.." Theodore Roosevelt Exposure 101
|
|
|
|
|
Joined: May 2004
Posts: 1,892
Member
|
|
Member
Joined: May 2004
Posts: 1,892 |
C'mon Mel you know you are one of my favorites here. I like your no nonsense attitude and the fact you don't back down when you think you are correct.
Beside I have seen your picture and I am a "big hair" kind of guy.
Divorced:
"Never shelter anyone from the realities of their decisions": Noodle
You believe easily what you hope for ernestly
Infidelity does not kill marriages, the lying does
|
|
|
|
|
Joined: Apr 2001
Posts: 92,985 Likes: 1
Member
|
|
Member
Joined: Apr 2001
Posts: 92,985 Likes: 1 |
Beside I have seen your picture and I am a "big hair" kind of guy. <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/grin.gif" alt="" /> <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/grin.gif" alt="" /> I love ya, Cymanca!
"It is not the critic who counts; not the man who points out how the strong man stumbles, or where the doer of deeds could have done them better. The credit belongs to the man who is actually in the arena.." Theodore Roosevelt Exposure 101
|
|
|
|
|
Joined: Sep 2001
Posts: 5,906
Member
|
|
Member
Joined: Sep 2001
Posts: 5,906 |
now that's just like a southern snippet...to steal my man...
hand me a shotgun please....
ARK
|
|
|
|
|
Joined: Apr 2001
Posts: 92,985 Likes: 1
Member
|
|
Member
Joined: Apr 2001
Posts: 92,985 Likes: 1 |
ark, it's the BIG HAIR, I tell ya... It works every time! <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/wink.gif" alt="" />
"It is not the critic who counts; not the man who points out how the strong man stumbles, or where the doer of deeds could have done them better. The credit belongs to the man who is actually in the arena.." Theodore Roosevelt Exposure 101
|
|
|
|
|
Joined: Dec 2002
Posts: 15,310
Member
|
|
Member
Joined: Dec 2002
Posts: 15,310 |
yesterday it's NIBBLETS..today it's SNIPPETS.. <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/rolleyes.gif" alt="" />
and another thing..TODAY IS FRIDAY!!!
Last edited by mimi1254; 04/07/06 09:12 AM.
I made it happen..a joyful life..filled with peace, contentment, happiness and fabulocity.
|
|
|
|
|
Joined: Sep 2001
Posts: 5,906
Member
|
|
Member
Joined: Sep 2001
Posts: 5,906 |
bumping this plan b letter for those who might want to check it out...and so it doesn't get lost....
|
|
|
|
|
Joined: May 2006
Posts: 5,463
Member
|
|
Member
Joined: May 2006
Posts: 5,463 |
thanks for the bump! after reading your post, i was looking for examples! I have to agree that I've read some of your other posts and am amazed at your way with words! ...hope your no rolling your eyes at me...LOL <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/grin.gif" alt="" /> I may have to step out of the way of the shotgun too! <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/smirk.gif" alt="" /> Anyway, thank again! <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/cool.gif" alt="" />
A loving heart is the beginning of all knowledge.
Thomas Carlyle
|
|
|
|
|
Joined: Jul 2004
Posts: 1,399
Member
|
|
Member
Joined: Jul 2004
Posts: 1,399 |
grins...
This original letter was actually written to a man from a woman...
too long...i know....but I've always had a hard time shutting up when it's time to!
I do agree that for a letter to a man..Cy is right...shorter is better!
~*~My Old Signature is too long~*~
|
|
|
|
0 members (),
358
guests, and
102
robots. |
|
Key:
Admin,
Global Mod,
Mod
|
|
|
Forums67
Topics133,625
Posts2,323,525
Members72,047
| |
Most Online8,273
Yesterday at 04:20 AM
|
|
|
|
