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The link to this poem was posted on another thread by faithful follower.
It had such a worthwhile message that I thought I would copy and paste it here to give it it's own thread so it wouldn't be overlooked.
I have a feeling the regrets this man is expressing happens more times than not when a man leaves his wife for another woman. (Or when a woman leaves her H for an OM.)
Take a minute and read it; you won't be able to stop once you start! It's message is 'a lighthouse' to BS. And to WS, it's message is....... well, just read it and see for yourself. <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/smile.gif" alt="" />
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TESTIMONY OF A FOOL
As I sit here in my retirement home reminiscing about thoughts of years gone by, I hope you listen to what I'm about to say, and this is the reason why. You see, when I was just a young dad with a family of my own, I was too blind to see that the things in life that mattered the most, just one day might be gone.
I was only forty-five years old and had been married most all my life. I had two teenage children, a lovely home, along with a faithful wife. But my life became so boring with the same things happening each day. Sex grew so monotonous, and my lust seemed to just slip away.
My wife, instead of my once lover, became my best friend. I grew to love her more like a sister, or so I thought back then. Lustful thoughts began invading my once faithful mind. My wandering eyes became more wandering, most all the time.
I justified my actions though, for my wife just couldn't see, that it was entirely her fault, what was happening to me. She was always so involved with our young boy and girl, that she didn't understand me, nor did she include me in her world.
She was always doing for others and somehow neglecting me. How could she have been so blind that she couldn't even see, what was happening to us.
When I reached out in lust and followed it through, there was nothing in this world that my wife could do, for I'd found the "love of my life", a one of a kind, or so I thought.
My new wife was a looker, sexy and lean. To me she was the prettiest girl I'd ever seen. But shortly after we married she tried to make me over, and that's when I knew that the honeymoon was over.
Oh how the years seemed to slowly slip away. I thought about my first wife and children every day. I could almost smell the biscuits as I'd crawl out of bed, but now all that lay beside me was an aging sleepy head.
My first wife is now married to a jewel of a man I'm told. He spoils her and cherishes her, and now he's growing old, with the woman that I love.
My children, when they have time, come around every now and then, but I can't help but reminisce what my life just might have been, if I'd stayed home like I should have.
Now I'm old and all alone, living out my life in an old retirement home. My second wife died and my children don't seem to care, for they are now enjoying the dad who was always there.
Oh, if I could live my live all over again, I wouldn't have been as selfish as I'd been back then. I would now love my wife for being a wonderful mother, and respect her and cherish her as my only lover.
But all these things just cannot be, for now it's just too late for me. But as for yourself you'd better think twice, should you ever want to leave your wife.
For some things can never be the same, and I only have myself to blame. Now my days are numbered, and I'm still so all alone. I pray that God forgives me as I sit here all alone, in my retirement home.
Author: A Weeks Copyright©2003
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Thanks, Itwon't..I have this one bookmarked to read and read again.
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me: FWW/BS 52 H: FWH/BS 49 DS 30 DD 21 DS 15 OCDS 8
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Wow. What a poem. Hits home real hard.
Thanks for sharing.
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Sigh.
Makes all the sacrifices I have made during the marriage seems worthwhile if one day my husband would see what he has lost.
Bwaaa waaaa waa!
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I hope everyone that clicked on this thread, read the first post with the memorable message. (RuffledNOT I hope your husband realizes that also.) Thanks faithful follower for posting it in the first place and Orchid for posting and bringing the thread back to the top.
It seems many WS think the grass is greener on the other side but after awhile of being there, they look back and realize not only is the grass lush and green where they WERE but it is where they long to be.
However, many realize this TOO LATE, it seems, and the BS has found a new someone and their own green pasture.
I have seen it happen many times...The TOO LATE regrets.
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What a sad but yet true poem. It brought me to tears as I read it..
I see this happening with my WH. As he still see's the grass greener on the other side.
Even if he was to read something like this, he would say its not him and never would be. Still so much in denial and fog.
Hurting
BS (Me)- 47 WH - 46 Married- 24 yrs 3 children 15,19,22 2 grandsons D-Day- June17, 2005 while I was 1400 miles away WH living with OW since July 05 WH filed divorce papers Dec. 22, 05 Divorced granted June 28, 06
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Well, I just googled it and apparently A. Weeks is AGATHA Weeks, some self-published Christian inspirational author. I'm not saying it's not a good or truthful message, but it wasn't written by an actual WH. Unfortunately.
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Had my WH read this last night. He read it, got up and just went Hmmm.
really didn't expect him to jump up and say OMG...i have to stop the A today....
but hey...he did read it...and he will think about it at least once anyway!
and it was nice to know that....i will find myself with a "jewel of a man" one day and that my WH will regret this A for the rest of his life....
he already does to an extent....or he would've never sat thru reading this!
thanks for posting it!
Jaysmom
BW: 37 WH: 38 DS: 8 M: 8-26-95 D-Day: 8-24-05 Seperated: 8/24/05 WH was living next door at his mom's hanging out at our house all the time until... AUGUST 28th, 2007....I moved out...2008 we started reconciling...still seperated but moving forward...getting ready to move back together...until boom JUNE 2010....a new affair begins...NOW...
I have filed for Divorce.
Living by God's grace daily!!!!
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It would be no good showing this to my STBXH- he is so in love with OW he has never looked back. Heck, they are even engaged already and are not even yet divorced.
I'm no longer sure he will ever get it but thanks for posting.
Miffy1
ME(BS)-45
HIM(WH)-48
5 grown up children, 2 granchildren due August 06
OW-35, 2 children 8yrs and 6yrs
D- Day 28 october 2005, WH left, lived with OW 2 weeks before moving into apartment-affair continued they have lived together since january 2nd.
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