My husband and I have been together for 4 years in the beginning of our relationship he was seeing someone right before we started dating that he worked with....said they were better off friends. Yesterday I checked his voicemail and there were 3 messages from this girl - one about meeting for lunch....said she said "Hi this is Michelle from //Construction and meet me at 2:30" - I asked my husband and he said it was gal named Michelle and account that he called on. Well I took the phone number and googled it and it came up with the name of this gal he dated before - he had put ///Construction as a "code name" so that when I looked at his phone I wouldn't know - and what hurts more is she was in on this secret!! He said he did it because he knows how jealous I am and that it would be a HUGE fight if I saw that Michelle called or they went to lunch - they are JUST friends!! He is right that I am insecure and jealous - both my dad and my father in law left my mom and mother in law after 30 and 40 years of marriage, and I have had past boyfriends cheat on me - so yes I am insecure and would not have approved if he asked to go to lunch with her. But WHY should he be friends with someone he use to date??? Why have this secret and code name. Not sure how I can trust him - this girl I know had a HUGE crush on my husband for years and he now works in the same town she lives and works in. HELP - ADVICE?